i am so sad for you. one of my best friends died last summer. just before she was coming to visit me. she had a massive heart attack while in the shower. she was only forty years old. i was just stunned for days. i planted a star jasmine in my yard in her memory. that really did help me in my grief.
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Constance. It is hard to find any sense in it, I know. I hope you can find some comfort in the sincere and caring condolences of the wonderful people in the DC community.