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Old 03-16-2006, 11:42 PM   #31
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Here are hugs from my pair and I...
Oh Cora, thank you what great hugs..Your boys look so much like my Cade I it just tickles me..The three of you are dears..hugs back to you.

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Old 03-16-2006, 11:44 PM   #32
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kadesma I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. You have
unlimited hugs and prayers from me.
Thank you Middie, you are so sweet and giving..Your hugs are so very welcom to me..If ever I can return them..I'm here.

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Old 03-16-2006, 11:47 PM   #33
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dearest Kadesma

You are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

I do know what you are going though since about 6 mos ago my Mom died (at age 96) after a lengthy (15 year) bout with dementia. During this time I was the only living child and therefore had to shoulder responsibilities and make many decisions on her behalf.

On a practical level, I can only say that dementia is an irreversible deterioriation of the brain. Meds cannot reverse it; supplementary oxygen supply to the brain can help (just a simple breathing tube connected to an oxygen tank).

On an emotional level - I know how devastating this can be. I don't want to go into it here, but if you ever want to PM me, please do so. I will always be willing to help and share.

yours - SF
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I have a lot to learn and deal with and I welcome any advice you can give me. Will PM soon..Need to get myself pulled together and be ready to face what comes. Thank you so much for sharing with me, it makes me feel so much less alone..I do know that meds won't reverse it, doctor is hoping to put things on hold...Mom's dementia is caused from old heart problems and high blood pressure..Thanks again..you're much appreciated.
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Old 03-16-2006, 11:53 PM   #34
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cj, nothing can be harder than to make those type of life decisions. Keep looking on the positive side. Don't forget to make some time for yourself. You are one terrific lady for caring for your family like you do. I will be thinking of you and your family.

Lots of hugs and love from your friend,

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JLT,
thanks for being here for me..The response today from all of you has, brought me so much comfort. How nice it is to have all of you rally round me with all this kindness..I will take care of me, how can I not with all of you pulling for me..I feel so lucky to have such a dear friend as you..Thank you for your support, your love and those warm hugs.
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Old 03-17-2006, 12:01 PM   #35
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Kadesma, so sorry to read/hear about the stress and worry everyone in your family is going thru. Big hugs to you and yours. Hopefully the meds will help, with little or no side effects. Give it some time and follow up with the doc.

If I may make some suggestions? "Homes" are not what they used to be, or so I've heard. There are several solutions, but it takes some homework/calling around.

First I would suggest looking into a Caregiver, check the yellow pages. They come to the home and perform many tasks, not cheap, but it's one way to go and still be independent.

In home supportive services (IHSS), through the county, will come to the home, but one must be low income - check her insurance policy - Medicare etc. One does not have to be bedridden to apply for services.

Independent Living Centers - Look on line or in the yellow pages.

Retirement communities - My cuz, who is far from being retired, told me she has picked out a gated community in Florida - access to the beach, activities...I did some poking around on realtor.com, & I'll tell you, some of these places look like you can have a little house on a golf course, access to everything, and a spectacular view.

Check around on the internet, etc., and have them send you brochures, and set up an appt and take mom to take a look. I'm thinking about going myself, right now - that's how appealing some of them look -- and a lot less money than what I'm paying for a condo in L.A. with none of the amenities offered.

Call Dept of the Aging/Aged and local Senior Centers - get a case worker.

I wish the best for you and yours. Keep us posted.
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I am thinking of you and praying for the situtation to improve, sorry things are so down for you right now... :)
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Old 03-17-2006, 03:09 PM   #37
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Thanks Mish,
I'll look into these things. It was so sweet of you to find all these ideas for me. I was'nt sure where to begin..You're a good friend.

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Thanks you for the prayers Kim, they mean a lot to me. I'm so glad you've become a part of this wonderful family.


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Old 03-17-2006, 05:30 PM   #39
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yikes, Kadesma - taking care of the grandkids and now Mom.

Sorry I came to this post so late. This has to be heartbreaking for you. Please vent away as much as you need to. We are all pulling for you. Wish I had some wonderful advice but right now I don't.

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Kadesma,
You have all the prayers coming your way and a big hug to you. Know that we all have difficult times in all sorts of ways but that God does not give us more than we can take.
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