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Old 01-14-2008, 10:27 PM   #1
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Need thoughts and prayers

In my little neighborhood, when I was growing up, there were several of us who became family. In order: Bob, Mike, Gina, Katie E, and Jeff. We did everything together. We lived and loved as we lost parents, etc. My daddy being the first to die of them all in 1973. We were brothers and sisters. We stuck together and held each other up and held each other's hands.

Tonight I'm in tears because Bob, the oldest of us, and not too old, is on his death bed in a nearby hospital. I've been crying most of tonight because I love him as a brother.

I just spoke with my younger brother, who lives about a half mile from me and is another of Bob's "brothers." My brother and I are planning to go to the hospital tomorrow to say our good-byes to Bob. I don't know how I will do it. He's a piece of our "core" that is going away because he's the oldest of all of us.

It's going to be difficult because Mike, Gina and I are almost, to the day, the same age.

Emotionally, I don't want to do it, but because I love him, I know I have to.

Thanks for all your support. You've helped me before and I know you will help me now.


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Old 01-14-2008, 10:37 PM   #2
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Katie, I'm so sorry to hear this. Friends are the family we weren't lucky enough to born with. I'm glad your little brother is going with you to the hospital so you two can lean on each other.

Can you share something about this man who has meant so much to you? He sounds like a wonderful man. In the mean time, I'll be thinking of all of you and praying for Bob.


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Hugs to you and your brother. Keep the good memories close at hand.
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we are thinking of you and Bob. Sending you hugs and well wishes.
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I'm so sorry to hear this Katie. I will be praying for Bob, and for the rest of you that everything will not be too hard on any of you.

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Old 01-15-2008, 12:43 AM   #6
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Katie, it will be hard to go tomorrow. But, you will be with someone you love and helping someone else you love and who loves you..By going to him, you will help him on his journey..You will show him you love him and this will make it easier for him. This way he will not be alone, you will be at his side and making it smoother for him,. One day you will be able to look back and smile that you and he made the trip part way together. You both have prayer and thoughts of peace and comfort.
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Old 01-15-2008, 12:53 AM   #7
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Kadesma, you said exactly what I would have said, if I hadn't taken a Melatonin awhile ago and weren't about to fall out of my chair, asleep. Well said.

We will all be with you in spirit tomorrow Katie.

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Of course we'll be thinking of you, your brother and your dear Bob. It is a wonderful gift to have a friend who means the world to you.
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So sorry to read this thread Katie. I don't know how to do what you are about to do. I guess I have always assumed we find it within ourselves when the moment comes. I become a wreck on each of "those" visits to the vet. Can't imagine how hard it will be with a person. You have my thoughts and support.
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Katie, My heart goes out to you and your family. Stay strong and know that all our love, hugs and prayers are with you today and always. I know it's not easy to get through, but you have your family there and your family here at DC. We love you. Love, Faith and Lots of Hugs for you to share. Dawn

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