Originally Posted by GotGarlic
... instead of plopping down in front of the TV, take ... your new wife for a walk after work and talk over how your days went. ....
Are you CRAZY
Wife (office worker) comes home and make sounds about her day, same sounds day after day. After Day. I do listen a little to hear a different sound, if something sounds different I'll listen ... for a little bit. If I actually listened I would be tempted to interact. I've listened before. It's driven me nuts. Same noise, day after day, after day, SOMETHING NEW! Nope, same noise with a twist.
Took me a long time to learn how to look like I was interested while 90% of my mind is off somewhere else.
As many married people will tell you , that's what you need to do. Just sort of listen. Not completely ignoring Spouse, Listening just enough to ask a pertinent question on occasion. It's a delicate balance. For the most part that's all a spouse needs, and more importantly, that's all they want.
Except on a day like yesterday.
Wife comes home and I know immediately something is wrong. The little boy in me wonders what I've done wrong or didn't do. I cautiously probe .... WHEW! They promoted X to assistant office manager, Boy am I glad I washed the cats litter boxes.
(No, Wife didn't want the position, couldn't have had the position even if she did want it (retires with 30 years in 181 days, but who's counting?))
Wife now has 100% of my attention. I did those things needed done to help my best friends hurt go away.
I called Wife this morning. No o ne in the office is happy, What was the "Big Boss" thinking???? Why X
seems to be the common question. I point out how, though Wife can now look forward to doing MORE of X's work and Wife is getting screwed Wife is by no means the one getting it the hardest. Wife should have pity for Wifes immediate boss .... 181 days dear, your short timing. Watch the situation and be amused.
But LISTEN? TALK??!! Are you CRAZY? That will drive you NUTS!
BTW, DH was a weatherman in the Navy - he never believes a forecast more than 2-3 days out. Good luck to you both.
weather.gov / NOAA is pretty good.
The rest tell you what you want to hear, if at all possible they hold to the 'Better weather is 4 days away' forecast.