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Thanks to all of you! Seems some people think I am out of sink with normal society. It is just can you really question anything when you love them and they do all they can in return? He is very very special. Was my mom's dog before she passed away, hence he has some kind of memory of her with him. She also named him China and here at the end of his life he is being treated by chinese herbs and acupuncture. Seems like of strange to me. Even the doctor and people in office say he truly has unique connection with their work. First time they had dog with this name. Thanks again for understanding. If only all the people who come to my house felt the same way you people do.
 
I feel badly because I've had to banish Mamacat and her son, Tarzan, outside.....both of them decided to use our carpets as littler boxes......took them to the vet to rule out urinary tract problems.........clean as whistles.......the boxes of clumpable litter were cleaned as soon as colonic matter appeared.....no real good excuses that I was accepting my friend explained that they were probably mad about something.......well I get mad, too,,,,but I don't make myself socially unacceptable while I'm at it.......thank goodness it's warm most of the year here......they sleep on blankets in the garage.......and are quite happy.....neither even try to run indoors when given the opportunity both are shorthairs, too.......
 
grummble, sass,cry, sceam, pull hair, shout, say very nasty words. There I feel better. Thanks Barbara.
 
Okay, here I go, but be warned this is going to be a very bumpy ride.

DD turned 25 today (Tuesday) and it was also one week ago today that she got married

DD and I spent half of Sunday in the hospital with the return of her abdominal pain and she was told she had diverticulitis which showed up on the CT scan of May 16th (but was not mentioned at that time). I know how serious this can be because of my father's experiences with it. They hooked her up to IV for antibiotics and did tests. They then said there was no infection and sent her home with an RX for more anti-biotics and a bottle of demerol for the pain. She has had diarrehea every day since this started and the ER doctor says she is just full of "poop and gas" and should take some laxitives and will be fine.

Now she already had a colonoscopy scheduled for yesterday (Monday) and had it done in the morning. They gave her a written report (complete with colour pictures) saying that everything was fine - no colitis (original diagnosis), no diverticuli (infected or otherwise), no problems at all.

She was very discouraged and very much in pain. I told her that this was actually a good thing because all of this was definitely ruled out now. When she got home to make an appointment immediately with her family doctor and we went there at 10:00 this morning. Her doctor agreed that it was not bowel related but still was not convinced it was appendix. She said if she were to persue anything it would take a few days to a few weeks to set anything in motion and that DD should go to the hospital, but not the same one.

We went to a smaller hospital in the next town and we met by the triage nurse from ****. DD had the chills and had been running a fever when we left the house but it was down by this time. She was also dressed in sweats and a baseball cap because it was comfortable. The nurse took one look at her and the fact that she was not going back to the same hospital and made some very cruel assumptions. She told DD to stop shaking - she couldn't have chills because she didn't have a fever. She also said she couldn't have a pain level of 10 because her heart rate as 78 (what does THAT mean?). She basically stated that she must have been kicked out of the other hospital because she was just trying to get drugs. I tried to intervene and she shot me down saying DD was old enough to talk for herself. She then put 5 people with minor injuries through before us. I went to the new triage nurse and asked when we would go in and she looked up the chart and said "oh, we better get her in right away".

Well she sees a medical student, a resident and a surgeon. They are all concerned that all the tests show different things, including a small cyst on her ovary that was never mentioned before. The surgeon decides enough is enough and sets up an exploratory for Wednesday 1:00 pm (PST). He says he will probably removed the cyst and appendix during the procedure. He is worried about a rare occurance of chronic appendicitis where the appendix flares and ebbs on a regular basis so that it wouldn't always show on the tests. We were both impressed with him.

DD settles down and relaxes a bit because she knows something is being done. I leave to make phone calls and give her a chance to visit with her cousin because it is her birthday. Enter in the nurse from triage. She totally ignores DD's plea for something more for the pain. She sees DD walk her cousin down the hall to leave and yells at her for being up. We ask once again for her morphine bump up but the nurse onces again ignores it. Our two DH's show up around 5 pm and mine and I go out to have the lunch he brought, after singing happy birthday with a flameless candle in her Blizzard (doctor said she could have ice cream for her birthday but nothing solid and nothing at all after midnight.) She and DH go for a smoke, which they shouldn't have and the nurse has moved her bed into the hall and told her she won't get any morphine on HER shift. Well, SIL runs to find me to make it all better. I find the nurse and say my daughter really is in a lot of pain and she said that she doesn't act like it. I finally said "If it was your 25th birthday and you had only been married one week, would YOU want to be in the hospital if you weren't sick?" We get the morphine but she asks DD "what dose of morphine are you used to"? DD looks totally wounded and says I don't know I hate taking anything but I just want some relief until I get the surgery!

Well, the new nurse came on and I had a long talk with her before we left. The pain management got worked out but DD lost her room and was to be in the hall all night. I explained what had happened, but there was no place for her. They will do there best.

SIL has taken tomorrow off and he and I will be at the hospital all day tomorrow. He wants me there because I "seem to get things done". I hate that I have become able to throw my wait around, but I am just tired of seeing this poor young woman treated the way she is.

Okay, now to me. The camp I cooked at last year called yesterday grovelling to have DH and I come and give whatever time we have to help out during the next two months because they have over 30 staff on special diets and will have even more when the campers start this Friday. DH really wants to go for this weekend and a couple of others. I am in pain, have my doctor's appointment next week and have catering orders that are enough work for me to handle. And I really don't feel I owe anything to them (long story I won't go into). Plus, I don't want to leave DD right now.

Okay, I am done. Hopefully now I can get some sleep.
 
Laurie I have a DD that's 26 and if I were you I'd be absolutely furious! Who does that nurse think she is? I don't know how you do things in Canada but here in the States, I'd be having a nice chat with the hospital administrator right about now and explaining to them that I would not tolerate any more verbal abuse from that woman (or anyone else for that matter). I would tell them that she was NEVER to come anywhere near my DD ever again!!!! And then I'd be having a chat with the doctor because I wouldn't imagine he would like his patients being talked to like that either. If she doesn't like her job then she needs to find a new one! Boy reading that really peed me off! :mad:

Do you want me to come up there? I'll straighten her sorry butt out! :boxing:

As far as the camp goes, your DD should take priority.
 
I'm sorry your DD is sick, but throw your wait around until you get the results that you need. Your appendix is nothing to mess with, mind ruptured when I was 6 I was in the hospital a month and almost died. I'm glad the dr is finally doing something.
I would definately tell that nurse not to come near your DD again and I would also talk to hosp.admin. noone in the health care profession should behave that way. As far as saying that your DD was an addict, I think I would have punched her in the nose right then. Good Luck I hope your DD gets better
 
Laurie, I wish I could say something that would help. I wish I were there to give you moral support. You should definitely talk to someone in charge about that horrid nurse. She is beyond incompetent and rude.

You mentioned a small ovarian cyst. I was prone to pinpoint ovarian cysts which popped on their own (they were very painful), and then when I was around 27 years old I started having horrible pain. I went to the hospital. They did all kinds of tests and couldn't find anything until the 4th day. I had a fist-sized ovarian cyst that had been "hiding." As soon as they removed it I stopped hurting. So hopefully removal of your DD's appendix and the cyst will make a difference.

Don't feel obligated to cook at that camp this year.

I'm keeping you all in my prayers.

:)Barbara
 
Jeez, Laurie, your daughter just can't get any help!! Hopefully, the exploritory testing will give her, and you, the answers you need for her to be healthy again! Good luck!!


OK, here goes, I hate my job. If my old bos would give me days off and paid holidays, as he said he would, I would go back there SO fast!!!
 
Thanks, everyone. I do intend to talk to the hospital administration and because I was so upset last night, and long winded, I didn't mention that in my talk with the night nurse I asked that she be assigned someone different today. She said she would put my complaint in the chart and also would have it mentioned to the surgeon. We are going up there in a few hours so we can spend time with her before the surgery and I also want to be there at shift change to make sure they don't assign the same woman.
 
my sincere wishes for a resolution of your daughter's problem.......I know........my daughter had an ongoing bladder/ urinary tract infection for over 3 months and has had to deal with a boyfriend that she was breaking up with and he just wouldn't accept it and was giving her all kinds of emotional grief and this is in addition to having to concentrate on a very demanding college schedule..not easy for a parent to sit idly by......you want to be their saviours.......it's our lot in life.........
 
Laurie, have they ruled out Gall stones, Kidney stones ? I suffered from both when I was 19, had gall bladder taken out at 19 ! I also get bouts of divertulitis so I know how painful it can be. I sure hope your DD gets the help she needs. I pray for wisdom and guidance for the doctors to diagnose the problem and prescribe the right care for your DD.
 
((Laurie))) I hope things are looking up for both you and your daughter!!! This is rough stuff. I send you lots of love and energy, Vicki

Now as for me- Has anyone ever wished they were a rich orphan without children????
 
Laurie, I will have you and your daughter in my heart and prayers today while I wait for you to post that she's out and all is well.

It's so sad that hospitals often treat patients with unremitting pain of unknown cause as if they are drug seeking. It happened to my husband, who at the time was a VP of a large company, but he had an as yet undiagnosed ruptured discs in his back. When he kept going back to the doc, trying to find out what was wrong and fix the problem, he was labeled drug seeking. Finally, I had to call his doc and threaten some serious legal action if he wasn't given an MRI to see what was up. They did and before we got home from that, they were on the phone asking if hubby was OK. We were referred to a neurosurgeon, who did surgery within the week. So keep pushing because otherwise, your daughter might not be taken seriously until it is too late, girlfriend.
 
My mom had what we presume was a light stroke and my dad took her to their GP who referred her to a specialist. My dad didn't ask what kind of specialist so we presumed it was a neurologist but it was a psychiatrist ! ! ! How can he refer someone with whom there is obviously something wrong physically to a psychiatrist or am I missing something? Anyway the psychiatrist referred her to have X rays done and they're going back there tomorrow for another consultation. I wanted to go along but my dad is adament that he'll handle it. I just hope the doctors aren't wasting valuable time and my parents' medical aid funds...
 
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