Barbara L
Traveling Welcome Wagon
I agree. Prayers going up for you luvs, as always.
Barbara
Barbara
Alix, how well I know what you're going through..I had to care for my dad and did it gladly and at 90 lbs.It was a major work to pick him up and move him from place to place. But I did it and now I'm so glad..I had to grow a set of armor and find the best ear plugs made. I did it, but after I le someone have it but good..I didn't pick dad up right, I wasn't cooking right why was I letting him have all that junk he loved a Hamburger now and then or a hot dog and all that darn watermelon..So I asked the doctor and a nurse..They said give him ice cream if he wants it 4 times a day, Lord he is on his last legs, let him at least enjoy food..Then next time I got the song and dance, I handed the person after me dad's tray and said here I'm going away for 2 weeks, you take care of him OH and he has an appointment for a hair cut and a doctors appointment several in fact and he is planning a day in the park!! Amazing how fast we shut up and went home never to return..Poor dad missed my sister so much but I knew he appreciated what I was doing. When he was gone, my mom started to smoke again and it drove my sister nuts, she never came down hee for the last 3 years of my moms life, In a way I was glad she had dementia and couldn't remember, but it cut me to the quick when she would ask over and over where her baby was...So you grow a coat of armor and let mom ask for someone else, and give others the thank yous and in your heart you remember being her little girl and how she loved you and hold close what you've done because others just like you know and love you for what you ae doing.Minor vent on my part.
I'm really tired of people behaving badly here and then complaining (either in PM or on other sites) about getting moderated/banned. I'm tired of people assuming things and making disparaging remarks. This is something we volunteer to do in our spare time (which some of us have precious little of) and when people get nasty it really ticks me off. And more on others behalf than my own. BAH! Ok, enough of that vent.
Slightly bigger vent.
My Mom is not very well. This is her own choice (not taking meds) and even though I've tried to point out the dangers she has continued. She snips at me for doing anything to care for her, and then fawns all over ANYONE else who does anything for her. Thats not the vent part yet believe it or not. The frustration is that I am getting guilted/chastised for not doing things that Mom refuses to let me do. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! Danged if I do, and danged if I don't.
BAN THE FIENDS!!!!! (Thanks Stacy!).All you mods are the greatest and anyone with a problem doesn't need to be here anyway!!