Old Venting Thread

[deelady]

Thanks, kades. I am crying even more now. I needed that "talking to" and I needed it from you. I think the biggest thing is that I am just tired of having to deal with everything through pain and lack of sleep. If I was my normal self this wouldn't get to me so bad. Also, it is hard throwing out memories as I go through the damaged boxes. But I feel that TGL allowed this to happen so we would let go of a lot of things and "get our house in order". Thankfully it did happen while DH is unemployed because I wouldn't have been able to handle it all on my own.

Thanks, again friend.

Can I add in my own hug as well!! {{{{{Big Hug!!}}}}}
I hope things get back to normal very soon for you

 

[expatgirl]

I stand on my original advice.........you and hubby need a night or two away from the house hubbub..........our home downstairs flooded years ago when one of the cats made the laundry take out hose come out.....she jumped on it.....now we have it wired in....water was everywhere and they brought blowers in for 3 days.........I thought that i was going to go crazy from the noise of those $$$$ fans......I hope they told you what they cost or you are really going to get ill if your insurance doesn't pay...we had 3 of them and it cost thousands for 3 days........hey, your immune system doesn't need this added stress.............get away........I promise you that you'll be glad that you did.......I wished that I lived nearby......you could come here ........to get away and decompress............you'd have 2 nosy cats in bed with you but they'd welcome you with open paws........I'm sorry for the additional stress in your life.......do try and get away for a night or two

 

[LPBeier]

Thanks, expat, but unfortunately that will not happen. With DH being unemployed at the moment and the fact we will be losing the income from our border at the end of the month, plus the fact we have two dogs, we can't just pick up and go to a motel. It will be all right, I am sure. A friend who used to live above us owns another unit across the the lane and it is empty as he is trying to sell it. He said if they are going to rip up the carpets we can "move" over there for a couple of days. We would just have to take our mattresses and he said the dogs are fine. So it wouldn't be "away from it all", but at least I might get a good night sleep.

 

[expatgirl]

if you can't get away go and rent a few funny stand up some comedians' tapes (I absolutely adore Robin williams and Carlos Mencius-------yeah,,,,,,,,,there's bad language......but outside of that they are so funny and so spot on about so many things or the Redneck Comedy Team........and they will take your mind off your problems.......make some popcorn have beer on hand and invite your boarder.........he can't study all the time.......you all need to deflate a bit...........I really do feel for you because I've been there and done that........and it's not fun at all........and I didn't have any of the physical problems that you did except for two mouthy teens and that was head problems that all parents go thru.......we're past those humps.........

 

[expatgirl]

I know that a few nights ago my leg was killing me with pain..........the cyst was huge an I made the stupid mistake of going to the internet so I was dying of cancer as well (remind me y'all never to do that again) and I was so down and depressed............nothing was lifting my moods until I saw the comedy shows......laughter just releases endomorphins which are a natural mind lifters..........if you can laugh you can endure...............so Laurie rent some funny tapes and laugh and laugh.......you need to ........I wished you lived near me.......we'd go out for lunch and I promise you that we'd laugh...........but please do rent a few tapes...........I'd send you some of mine but they're in KZ...........please hang in there, Girlfriend

 

[homecook]

Laurie, I'm so sorry for all you're going through right now. I know the frustration of everything coming down on your head and the lack of sleep. It just intensifies every little thing.
You'll be in my thoughts and prayers that things start to lighten up for you. ((((HUGS))) to you!!

Barb

 

[Claire]

Idiot, idiot, idiot. Me, not any of you. After my workout this morning I reached in my pocket ... no keys. Traced my steps. Talked to the hospital receptionist, the fitness center/pt receptionist, (my fitness center is in the hospital) and the manager. Luckily the other women in my class hadn't left yet and one took me home to pick up my husband's set of keys. Also luckily, I live in a very small, very low-crime town and there really isn't anything on my keychain to match it up with the truck or the house. So it is more a pain in the patootie than a real danger. But how can I possibly have lost my keys in such a small area?

 

[LPBeier]

Claire, I have lost my keys so many times and felt they were "gone forever" then found them sometimes months later in the stupidest of places. It happens. I feel for you.

 

[kadesma]

Idiot, idiot, idiot. Me, not any of you. After my workout this morning I reached in my pocket ... no keys. Traced my steps. Talked to the hospital receptionist, the fitness center/pt receptionist, (my fitness center is in the hospital) and the manager. Luckily the other women in my class hadn't left yet and one took me home to pick up my husband's set of keys. Also luckily, I live in a very small, very low-crime town and there really isn't anything on my keychain to match it up with the truck or the house. So it is more a pain in the patootie than a real danger. But how can I possibly have lost my keys in such a small area?

Don't be so hard on yourself Claire,we have all done this at sometime in our lives...I find for myself that I get upset and then trying to remember get's fuzzy..So now I go sit down and have a cup of tea or coffee even a soda and just relax I make no effort to try to remember and then I find myself going quietly over my steps..I usually remember and yep there they are right where I set them..In your case some well meaning person most likely picked them up intending to turn them in and has forgotten..In any case..I hope they turn up for you.
kadesma

 

[Claire]

Yeah, I used to lock mine in the car on a regular basis (so often that I kept a wire coat hanger handy back in the days when you could easily break into the car with one!). It hasn't happened in 20+ years. The thing is that where I lost them .... there is a very limited area where they can be. I drove to the hospital. So they have to be somewhere at the hospital or in the truck itself (husband and I both have searched it). Oh, well. Already had the truck key and house key duplicated, still need to do the storm door and the lid to the bed of the truck. Then get my grocery discount and library card scanners made up.

 

[expatgirl]

please.......keys are a sore issue around here........I have bought more house keys that I've lost count of.........had a really nice outdoors seashell.........looked real........was a hidden key holder........nooooooooooooo............kids can't seem to keep keys in it........always gone..............now the bottom is gone and no keys............thank goodness this afternoon when I came home my daughter in law happened to come at the same time........doors were locked and I had no keys........I am going to scream..........so tomorrow I get some new keys and will NOT tell them where they are outdoors..........they are for ME...

 

[LPBeier]

I have been getting sick over the past few days...mostly my asthma. I have not been able to control it with inhalers. DH was getting worried and wanting to take me to the hospital but I have a bit of an aversion to them these days.

OUR insurance adjuster (as opposed to the one who never showed up for the complex) sent a restoration specialist today, five days after the flood. He was horrified. He said the fans that the complex's restoration guy put in after cleaning the carpets were actually blowing the bacteria into the air - hence my respiratory problems. They are coming tonight to rip up all the contaminated carpet and test it and the linoleum in the bathrooms and storage room (where the flood was).

He will then take measurements of the whole house and ALL the carpets, underlay, wood subfloor have to be removed and replaced. This will happen over the next week.

As for me, I have to leave the house as soon as possible. The insurance adjuster will also be hiring someone to pack up all our stuff because of my leg and asthma situation.

My vent is, this should all have been done in the first place. But oh well, it is being done now.

I will be taking my laptop to whereever I go (don't know yet, haven't gotten that far).

Thanks everyone for being there for me and listening to this ongoing horror story.

 

[pdswife]

can you go to your friend's apt upstairs from you?? Or is that too close to the problem? Will the insurance pay for a hotel?

GOOD LUCK!

 

[suziquzie]

Awwww Laurie!
I'm sorry you didn't get to kick the first adjuster for real now!!!
Hope you get out and get well soon.

 

[LPBeier]

Awwww Laurie!
I'm sorry you didn't get to kick the first adjuster for real now!!!
Hope you get out and get well soon.

No, He is the good guy! Got this whole thing started!

 

[homecook]

Oh Laurie, that must be terrible breathing in all that yuck with your asthma! There is probably mold growing in the carpet by now. Try to leave there asap! I know it doesn't take long for problems to start. We had a flood here a few years ago and our basement was terrible. All the drywall had to be ripped up and replaced, the carpet replaced and the tile. It only took 2 days for the mold to start.
Please take care of yourself and do whatever is necessary to find some where else to go. I will be praying for your good health.

Barb

 

[LPBeier]

Thanks, Barb and everyone. See my post under "Last thing that made me smile"

 

[expatgirl]

Laurie,,,,,,,,I'm so sensitive to molds so I can just imagine what you're going thru......I'm so glad to hear that your hubbie may have cinched the job.......please do get away even if it's for one night.........you both need a night out on the town

 

[Claire]

I feel for you. Mold is no laughing matter. A friend had two sons who weren't growing as they should, a sick husband, and a couple of miscarriages before they realized their house had a big, major mold problem (most in our community life in 100+ year old houses). Insurance wouldn't admit to it, they wound up giving up their house. Her boys started growing, she had a beautiful healthy little girl. The house, though, has remained an albatross even though the bank finally sold it to someone else.

 

[expatgirl]

you're right Claire........mold is terrible to live with if you're allergic and I live in one of the moldiest prone cities in the US and that's Houston.......most places just mix in a mold retardant when they give you outdoor paint..........