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Old 04-30-2008, 07:33 PM   #2251
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Bilby, you say your brother may not remember and you are worried about offending. Why not say to him, "So comforted to hear mum will be with you on 'that' specific day as it's hard enough for her, being with you though, I know she'll feel more comfortable. Thanks for having her on dad's anniversary, it means a lot." Just a suggestion
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Old 05-01-2008, 08:34 AM   #2252
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Thanks for the suggestion LEFSE but we just don't have that sort of relationship. It's either out with it or keep schtumm. Mum and I talked about it when she was choosing which day to come home on, and she knows what they are like as a family and was prepared for the throw of the dice. She chose to come home the day AFTER the anniversary. On Sunday when I pick her up, she and I will either have a laugh at where their heads are screwed on or have a laugh that they remembered! LOL I think mum has gone down there with the attitude to see what happens cos even if he does remember, there is no guarantee that he will feel comfortable bringing it up or marking the occasion. He and I are vastly different creatures. Sometimes, I need to take a backseat, and I think this is one of those times.
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Old 05-03-2008, 02:21 AM   #2253
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Venting frustration/ISO advice

The frustration:
It has been two months since my triple bi-pass, and the chest pains are still there. Supposed to start PT this week, had to delay as the won't let me participate unless I bring my glucometer and test before exercising. Mg/Dl has to be below 300 per their rules. I am out of test strips and am having a hard time getting a new prescription for them as my PCP is on vacation and no one else seems to want to make the decision to just write it out without seeing me first. The prescription is there in my file, just expired for renewals and needs them to either just OK the re-fill with Walgreens, or write a new one with X number of refills.
I won't see the Cardiologist for another month, and when calling over they say wait or go to the emergency room. I do not think I need to go to the ER, and wasn't the surgery supposed to end this problem? At the time they thought I might need a quadruple but settled on a triple, maybe they should have done the quadruple.
One group of Dr's says just wait it out, it will get better. The other says I should have another angiogram done to check on additional blockages. Until they agree, I am stuck in the middle again like I was before the surgery. I would rather not have another heart attack while waiting on them to decide on a course of action (which is what happened last time.

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I always tell DW Clients are Clients and not friends, never mix the two. But, one couple has become just that. Great people, had us over for a dinner party going on 3 years ago when we completed their first garden.
One is an antique dealer, the other is of all things a Heart Surgean/Cardiologist and a darn good one. One of his hospitals he works with is Loyola. A very good hospital.
He knows what is going on thru DW, and wants me to leave a list of my meds with him for review. He also wants me to drop the cardiologist at my hospital and go to Loyola. My heart surgeon is there, and he wants to work with him to take a closer look and get a decision made, plan in place, etc. He says it is possible to have a heart attack even after a triple, and they cant get all the blockages at once plus some just plain get more blocked up after the surgery and they have no choice but to operate again. He definetely seems more action orientated and knowledgable as he has done a much better job of explaining possible causes and courses of treatment.
I certainly appreciate the offer, but am worried about mixing business and personal.

What would you do?
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Old 05-03-2008, 04:14 AM   #2254
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First and foremost, you need to be checked out by someone. I don't know what a PCP is - is that the term you use for your family doctor? If so, can you just go to someone in the same practice? If not, go to your family doctor and at least get him look you over.

I have several specialists and a general GP. Everyone defers to the nephrologist though for general care and monitoring. (The quicker they can give me the flick, the happier they seem to be!! LOL Poor GP can't get rid of me though!! LOL) When they go on holiday, I go to whoever can access my file (within their field). I can understand not wanting just anyone to do something major to you, but for "maintenance", anyone qualified really will do.

As to the personal/business relationship - it happens. Usually the sky doesn't fall down when it does. If you are comfortable with the chap, I think you should say to him, look I really don't want to stop seeing my cardiologist but would appreciate your assistance in this instance. My brother wants me to change GP's (Family Doctor) to his friend who practices only a few minutes from my house rather than the half an hour I now travel. His friend I am sure is very good and is a lovely chap - he was groomsman at my brother's wedding and my partner (wedding sense only) some twenty plus years ago. In one sense, I am happy to oblige but there are just some things that I wouldn't want to consult Greg for - I mean, he's my brother's friend and has known me since I was a little girl. But I would if I had to.

End of the day, just see someone and don't worry about the PT until this is resolved. And any medical person who just says to ignore it without looking you over, should be ignored. IMO
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Old 05-03-2008, 09:21 AM   #2255
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what would I do??? Maverick, first of all I would kick your butt....get yourself to the doctor and get more tests run if you need another bypass then so be it..but things are the way they are and maybe all is going to be well with the triple but get youself to a reputable doctor nonetheless----I know that transient heart pains are a consequence of heart surgery so I'm not going to dispute that fact....you are definitely worried or you wouldn't share your concerns...please see someone reputable...you don't sound really sure of your present doctor.....it's your heart and life
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Old 05-03-2008, 09:39 AM   #2256
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Mav, HELLO!!??!! Go get yourself checked. If your PCP is with a group, any one will do. As for the cardioligist - you are entitled to a second and third opinion, so go talk to your friend's cardiologist! AFTER your get CHECKED.
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Old 05-03-2008, 07:55 PM   #2257
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DW said she is going to go ahead and talk to her client about a second opinion. She says he has already hinted several times I should leave my hospital and go to Loyola. Even if I don't see him at Loyola, I would be seeing someone he knows.
DW is going to talk to him next time we are up there.
Bilby, a PCP is a Primary Care Physician. I love mine, but she is not a cardiologist, so the only thing she can do is give me a referral to one. She was right there with me the whole way pushing them to do more tests until they found the blockages.
If I decide to take DW's client up on his offer, she would more than readily give me a referral to see him or whoever he told me I should see.
And I am sure when she comes back from vacation and finds out they didn't cover her patients right, there will be consequences. But in the meantime, I am still stuck on that.
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Old 05-04-2008, 10:25 AM   #2258
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Well guys, friday was something and saturday was a doozy...Friday the staff at the pharmacy kept hearing a moaning groaning coming from the ceiling, then they noticed some water seepage..Upshot was store evacuated, we made the news as the store selling drugs on the street..And that is the way it will be for the next 3 months..DH and partner are going to really have a hands full situation..We have a post office and pay station in there tons of gifts..so it's like now what..This is really hard to take, but a big thank heaven nobody was hurt,venting well a little,crying is more like it.
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Old 05-04-2008, 10:33 AM   #2259
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Okay, cj, I'm confused. Moaning and water seeping from the ceiling? Was there a body there? Pharmacy? I'm kinda new to your background.
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Old 05-04-2008, 10:34 AM   #2260
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Well guys, friday was something and saturday was a doozy...Friday the staff at the pharmacy kept hearing a moaning groaning coming from the ceiling, then they noticed some water seepage..Upshot was store evacuated, we made the news as the store selling drugs on the street..And that is the way it will be for the next 3 months..DH and partner are going to really have a hands full situation..We have a post office and pay station in there tons of gifts..so it's like now what..This is really hard to take, but a big thank heaven nobody was hurt,venting well a little,crying is more like it.
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You have been through so much this past year! You are the strongest person I know right now and with your loving family, you will get through this and everything will be better than it is now. I love you and so does everyone here. I will think of you and pray for you everyday until it's better!!
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