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Old 07-13-2015, 02:37 PM   #4541
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It's a shame that she is taking advantage of you this way. Don't let her walk all over you. The elderly couple across the street has a son but he must have radar. No sooner does one of the neighbors get finished cutting their grass then he pulls in. The daughter shows up every day with food and supplies.
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Old 07-13-2015, 02:56 PM   #4542
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...Hubby isn't at all impressed.He doesn't like that I did a nice thing and now it's been turned around to the point that I now owe them...
The neighbor's daughter is just like a mosquito: Give her an inch, she'll take your entire foot.
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Tell her you've done what you could and that she should look elsewhere for help from now on.
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Old 07-13-2015, 03:21 PM   #4543
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Tell her you've done what you could and that she should look elsewhere for help from now on.
That's certainly the best advice but easier for some to say than others.
Nevertheless, it's the perfect thing to say.
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Old 07-13-2015, 07:41 PM   #4544
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I'm home, but on call.
She's to call me in 1 hour.Her daughter won't be home until late.
I'll go back over again in a while and check on her.

I can't put into words exactly what I saw right now.Thinking of my own work that had to slip today.

I did make them a nice chicken dinner with Andy's Mom's rice pilaf and some mixed veggies.She hadn't eaten lunch yet.I made her a plate.She ate everything but some of her veggies.

Thank you Andy for the recipe.She truly enjoyed it.

Yeah she did want me to start cleaning.Even wanted my sons to come over and get things organized.I told her no.Both ways.I fixed her plate and sat and talked.No more no less.

the place is bad. I really feel the need for a shower.
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Old 07-14-2015, 05:32 AM   #4545
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Sites that lead you to believe you can add a social commentary remark to a news story. If not having actually registered for that particular site and you want to leave a comment, you're giving the convenience of logging in using your Google, Facebook, etc. accounts. Fine.

You go and click on one of those to allow you to post a comment. Then you're taken thru a mire of passwords and logins that end up not being that convenient at all...logging in using your well established Facebook, Yahoo, Google accounts. It's not that convenient..at all and ends up in fail.

So much for sites saying..."not registered with us? No problem...link and log in and comment with one of these huge major social network icons ". It's just a matter of a click or two.
Fail.
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Old 07-14-2015, 08:08 AM   #4546
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Munky, The woman must get one of those calling bracelets , they advertise on TV all the time. My mom finally got one. Took a bit of convincing, but if something happens, push the button and emergency crew comes with in minutes. I think that what needs to be suggest to your neighbor. You are not her assistant, if something happens, G-d forbid, they will blame you. You need to tell that to the daughter.


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Old 07-14-2015, 10:34 AM   #4547
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Munky, The woman must get one of those calling bracelets , they advertise on TV all the time. My mom finally got one. Took a bit of convincing, but if something happens, push the button and emergency crew comes with in minutes. I think that what needs to be suggest to your neighbor. You are not her assistant, if something happens, G-d forbid, they will blame you. You need to tell that to the daughter.


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Charlie is right Munky. You don't want to end up being her ICE (In Case of Emergency) number. You don't want that responsibility. You will have the hospital calling you for permission to move her or for you to come and take her home. Etc. Step away while you can. They have already started fulfilling your fears.
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Old 07-14-2015, 02:01 PM   #4548
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Munky, The woman must get one of those calling bracelets , they advertise on TV all the time. My mom finally got one. Took a bit of convincing, but if something happens, push the button and emergency crew comes with in minutes. I think that what needs to be suggest to your neighbor. You are not her assistant, if something happens, G-d forbid, they will blame you. You need to tell that to the daughter.


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My mother has one of those bracelets.She hated it at first.The more she tried to take it off the worse her attitude got, she was very violent unit she got used to the idea that it can't be removed.She also has a 24 hr nurse and a security system that won't let her stray at all.She's also had her picture taken that's on file for as they say "Silver Protection" Elderly patients with Dementia.

As far as my neighbor,you know my sons told me yesterday the exact same thing you did.I would be blamed if anything should happen.She's a liability that I don't want or need.

Yesterday was the first time in 18 years that I've been invited into their home.Now as I'm typing her daughter is txting me like mad over stupid things. I'm playing the Monkey today.See nothing,say nothing,do nothing.
LOL!!!

Self protection I think.
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Good, keep it safe. It is your safety too.
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My mother has one of those bracelets.She hated it at first.The more she tried to take it off the worse her attitude got, she was very violent unit she got used to the idea that it can't be removed.She also has a 24 hr nurse and a security system that won't let her stray at all.She's also had her picture taken that's on file for as they say "Silver Protection" Elderly patients with Dementia.

As far as my neighbor,you know my sons told me yesterday the exact same thing you did.I would be blamed if anything should happen.She's a liability that I don't want or need.

Yesterday was the first time in 18 years that I've been invited into their home.Now as I'm typing her daughter is txting me like mad over stupid things. I'm playing the Monkey today.See nothing,say nothing,do nothing.
LOL!!!

Self protection I think.
Absolutely. Me thinks the daughter is tired of caring for her mother and looking for a scapegoat. And you have been elected even though you weren't even on the ballot. You may have to have a verbal confrontation with her letting her know that your husband does not approve. Let him in on it. It is easier when you can place the blame elsewhere. Advise her to find elderly services that can meet the mothers needs. Do some homework and have some phone numbers she can call. Then walk away. Don't look back.
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