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I hate my fear of spiders. My husband is down state and I'm supposed to put the trash cans out because they are full. They are covered in spider webs and there are multiple larger spiders on them. I took the spray out and sprayed everything but every time I'd think about reaching for the handle of one of the cans another spider would appear. I started to feel sick and lightheaded. I couldn't get closer than two feet from the cans without things starting to go dark and I'd have to back away. I had to give up when I started to hyperventilate.

Our spiders up here aren't even poisonous. I hate being paralyzed by something that I should be able to just squash or brush aside and be done with. It shouldn't be something that gets in the way of things I need to do. I can't even touch a photo of a spider. My hand shakes and I feel sick and can't physically force myself to actually make contact with the spider in the photo. There is a fake spider on the desk of a coworker. I tried three times to touch it and finally gave up when I made myself sick and almost passed out.

It's beyond frustrating and I feel stupid because I know it's completely irrational. No matter how much logic I throw at it or how mentally tough I try to be I just can't get past it. And I'm terrified that I'll be watching one of my nieces or nephews and there will be a spider on them and I won't be able to do anything. I should be able to protect them from anything if they are in my care but I wouldn't be able to to protect them from a spider.

I know there is treatment but I also know that treatment entails coming into contact with the thing I fear. That terrifies me to no end. And even if I'm "cured" I know it's possible to relapse. There also isn't anyone up here I'd trust for treatment so I feel stuck, trapped and angry with myself for not being able to fix it.
 
As if dealing with one insurance was not enough, now I also have to deal with my home insurance. My neighbore had simular, but smaller roof damage and he had his whole roof replaced and payed for by State farm. Me, they are offering to fix damaged area, basically patch few spots. How do I deal with this? Who can I complain? It is unbeliavable.

I wish I could help, CharlieD. I wonder if there was some structural problem with your neighbor's roof that was not visible from plain view.

There are lots of things about insurance that I just don't understand. For example, can anyone tell me why flood damage requires a separate policy from the regular homeowner's? What makes it any different from damage from fire or wind... It seems reasonable to me that flooding would be covered anywhere it rains. How did it become a separate category??

And just try reading through a homeowner's policy to find out exactly what it covers. Gobbledegook.
 
I hate my fear of spiders. My husband is down state and I'm supposed to put the trash cans out because they are full. They are covered in spider webs and there are multiple larger spiders on them. I took the spray out and sprayed everything but every time I'd think about reaching for the handle of one of the cans another spider would appear. I started to feel sick and lightheaded. I couldn't get closer than two feet from the cans without things starting to go dark and I'd have to back away. I had to give up when I started to hyperventilate.

Our spiders up here aren't even poisonous. I hate being paralyzed by something that I should be able to just squash or brush aside and be done with. It shouldn't be something that gets in the way of things I need to do. I can't even touch a photo of a spider. My hand shakes and I feel sick and can't physically force myself to actually make contact with the spider in the photo. There is a fake spider on the desk of a coworker. I tried three times to touch it and finally gave up when I made myself sick and almost passed out.

It's beyond frustrating and I feel stupid because I know it's completely irrational. No matter how much logic I throw at it or how mentally tough I try to be I just can't get past it. And I'm terrified that I'll be watching one of my nieces or nephews and there will be a spider on them and I won't be able to do anything. I should be able to protect them from anything if they are in my care but I wouldn't be able to to protect them from a spider.

I know there is treatment but I also know that treatment entails coming into contact with the thing I fear. That terrifies me to no end. And even if I'm "cured" I know it's possible to relapse. There also isn't anyone up here I'd trust for treatment so I feel stuck, trapped and angry with myself for not being able to fix it.

Sorry this afflicts you so badly, I got over my fear of spiders by studying them. In books...:) Now I can escort them outside, quickly.
 
i hate being sick! i feel sick! i am sick! i have to much to do to be sick! this is how it started this time last year. sore throat, slight cough and stuffed up and running at the same time nose. if not better or if worse tomorrow will have to see dr. can't end up in hospital again. don't know how i get sick , i hardly leave the house. maybe my great grandkids brought it to me from kindergarten. it sucks!!

I must have given it to you in one of my posts! I'm just now getting over exactly what you just described. The clogged up ears is the last remaining problem.

Good luck and hang in there! It took a full week on me so far. Having the glands under the neck swell up like tennis balls was the worst. I tried to sleep about 16 hours a day.

Soup. Lots of soup. Lots of liquids. Sleep and rest.

Make two DC posts and PM me in the morning. :wacko:

Being hermit-like has its advantages...

And disadvantages...I'm definitely a "hermit". I have almost no contact with other people, except when I go to the grocery store. The problem with that is that my immune system isn't as strong as those who are around others all day, every day.

Today I woke and the bug has me down for the count again. A hard relapse. I feel like someone should shovel some dirt over me and end this misery.

I have chicken/vegetable soup for the day, (if I start feeling like food will stay put). Two gallons of juice in the fridge and will stay in bed most of the day.

Oh man, I just want to hibernate until this nasty goes away.
 
And disadvantages...I'm definitely a "hermit". I have almost no contact with other people, except when I go to the grocery store. The problem with that is that my immune system isn't as strong as those who are around others all day, every day.

Today I woke and the bug has me down for the count again. A hard relapse. I feel like someone should shovel some dirt over me and end this misery.

I have chicken/vegetable soup for the day, (if I start feeling like food will stay put). Two gallons of juice in the fridge and will stay in bed most of the day.

Oh man, I just want to hibernate until this nasty goes away.


Sorry you're not feeling well, hope you feel better soon. You need to get out more often, lol. Why don't you like people?? LOL
 
Sorry you're not feeling well, hope you feel better soon. You need to get out more often, lol. Why don't you like people?? LOL
It's not that I don't like people, it's that I enjoy working at home and in my yard.

Thanks! I hope this stuff goes away real soon!

Since I retired, I have so many home projects, that I rarely have any time or reason to go off my acre of earth.

I do go out to eat more often than most. I'm a real good cook, but with my projects, I don't cook as much as I should to save money. Sometimes it's 8pm before I'll realize I haven't eaten all day and I just go out to get it done quickly.

I'll never understand how anyone can get bored in retirement!

Little Dinky, (my cat), is right here next to me. He knows I feel like ^$$#^#$%^ and he's staying closer to me than normal. If he was any closer, he'd be a hat. :LOL:
 
PrincessFiona60 said:
Sorry this afflicts you so badly, I got over my fear of spiders by studying them. In books...:) Now I can escort them outside, quickly.

Thanks PF. I have studied them and I find them facinating. I love the look of their webs and some varieties of spiders are very pretty. Recognizing their beauty at an artistic/intellectual level doesn't help though. I'd love to be able to draw them, but that would require touching a likeness of them. I'm hoping maybe once we get down state I can find someone who's good at treating phobias.
 
Timothy said:
It's not that I don't like people, it's that I enjoy working at home and in my yard.

Thanks! I hope this stuff goes away real soon!

Since I retired, I have so many home projects, that I rarely have any time or reason to go off my acre of earth.

I do go out to eat more often than most. I'm a real good cook, but with my projects, I don't cook as much as I should to save money. Sometimes it's 8pm before I'll realize I haven't eaten all day and I just go out to get it done quickly.

I'll never understand how anyone can get bored in retirement!

Little Dinky, (my cat), is right here next to me. He knows I feel like ^$$#^#$%^ and he's staying closer to me than normal. If he was any closer, he'd be a hat. :LOL:

Hmmm, not eating anything all day until 8pm can't be healthy. Anyway, hope you feel better soon. If you haven't already been to the doctor and it lasts too much longer make sure you get checked to make sure it's nothing too bad.
 
It's not that I don't like people, it's that I enjoy working at home and in my yard.

Thanks! I hope this stuff goes away real soon!

Since I retired, I have so many home projects, that I rarely have any time or reason to go off my acre of earth.

I do go out to eat more often than most. I'm a real good cook, but with my projects, I don't cook as much as I should to save money. Sometimes it's 8pm before I'll realize I haven't eaten all day and I just go out to get it done quickly.

I'll never understand how anyone can get bored in retirement!

Little Dinky, (my cat), is right here next to me. He knows I feel like ^$$#^#$%^ and he's staying closer to me than normal. If he was any closer, he'd be a hat. :LOL:

Yes, I can't wait to get to retire but I'm afraid I have a ways to go.... must be nice (envious)lol.
 
Hmmm, not eating anything all day until 8pm can't be healthy. Anyway, hope you feel better soon. If you haven't already been to the doctor and it lasts too much longer make sure you get checked to make sure it's nothing too bad.

Hey PAG, it's the way I've lived for the last 10 years. I eat once a day, usually in the evening. Right now, it's whatever this bug is that is hammering me. I ate some rotisserie chicken last night and after chewing it for about 30 seconds, it was like it was growing in my mouth. Bleh! I have veggie soup laid out today. I'll put some cut up chicken in it and call that supper.

I don't go to Doctors much. I can stay home and drink plenty of fluids and get plenty of rest without a Doc charging me $60 to say it. :ROFLMAO:

Yes, I can't wait to get to retire but I'm afraid I have a ways to go.... must be nice (envious)lol.

At first, retirement scared the heck outta me. I was so worried about not having enough money and no income.

Now, I do a couple database jobs a month and that gives me enough money to "pad" my retirement funds and make me feel a bit better in my head.

Next year, I plan on quiting the databases completely and I'll be growing hydroponic veggies and selling them at the local farmers market.

My plan is $1 per/pound for everything I'll sell. This is quite a price lowering for most of it and I hope that will enable me to sell out every weekend.
 
I hate my fear of spiders. My husband is down state and I'm supposed to put the trash cans out because they are full. They are covered in spider webs and there are multiple larger spiders on them. I took the spray out and sprayed everything but every time I'd think about reaching for the handle of one of the cans another spider would appear. I started to feel sick and lightheaded. I couldn't get closer than two feet from the cans without things starting to go dark and I'd have to back away. I had to give up when I started to hyperventilate.

Our spiders up here aren't even poisonous. I hate being paralyzed by something that I should be able to just squash or brush aside and be done with. It shouldn't be something that gets in the way of things I need to do. I can't even touch a photo of a spider. My hand shakes and I feel sick and can't physically force myself to actually make contact with the spider in the photo. There is a fake spider on the desk of a coworker. I tried three times to touch it and finally gave up when I made myself sick and almost passed out.

It's beyond frustrating and I feel stupid because I know it's completely irrational. No matter how much logic I throw at it or how mentally tough I try to be I just can't get past it. And I'm terrified that I'll be watching one of my nieces or nephews and there will be a spider on them and I won't be able to do anything. I should be able to protect them from anything if they are in my care but I wouldn't be able to to protect them from a spider.

I know there is treatment but I also know that treatment entails coming into contact with the thing I fear. That terrifies me to no end. And even if I'm "cured" I know it's possible to relapse. There also isn't anyone up here I'd trust for treatment so I feel stuck, trapped and angry with myself for not being able to fix it.

I feel your pain... I have left my house because of one. I can kill them when they're small. But the bigger ones I can't even get close too. I can can deal with just about anything other than a spider. I'd even rather see a snake then a spider.

My husbands brother had a tarantula. He kept it in a glass cage. They knew I was coming one day and they thought it'd be funny to sit it next to the couch in the cage. I sat there unaware for a while until somebody said did you see that next to the couch...Well needless to say I acted a fool. Nearly turned the couch over backwards trying to get up, ran into the glass coffee table in front of me, knock it off. Luckily it didn't break. Hurt my knee trying to run out of the room. I didn't think it was the least funny. I didn't go back for months....
 
Hey PAG, it's the way I've lived for the last 10 years. I eat once a day, usually in the evening. Right now, it's whatever this bug is that is hammering me. I ate some rotisserie chicken last night and after chewing it for about 30 seconds, it was like it was growing in my mouth. Bleh! I have veggie soup laid out today. I'll put some cut up chicken in it and call that supper.

I don't go to Doctors much. I can stay home and drink plenty of fluids and get plenty of rest without a Doc charging me $60 to say it. :ROFLMAO:



At first, retirement scared the heck outta me. I was so worried about not having enough money and no income.

Now, I do a couple database jobs a month and that gives me enough money to "pad" my retirement funds and make me feel a bit better in my head.

Next year, I plan on quiting the databases completely and I'll be growing hydroponic veggies and selling them at the local farmers market.

My plan is $1 per/pound for everything I'll sell. This is quite a price lowering for most of it and I hope that will enable me to sell out every weekend.


Hydroponic?? How are they grown?
 
Hydroponic?? How are they grown?
Hydroponic means literally; "Working Water" and the way it works is the plants are placed into a non-soil medium like gravel and nutrients are pumped around the roots. The plant roots attach to the gravel and that gives them support.

The veggies generally have about 10 times the nutrients than soil grown veggies. Some organic growers can match hydroponic quality, but IMO, hydroponic gardening is easier than organic gardening.

If you've ever had questions about what hydroponic gardening is, and would like to visit my hydroponic site and ask some questions, please do so. It's like DC, and totally "G" rated.

(Mods: If the last paragraph is considered spam here, please delete it. The site is totally free and I make no money with it. Strictly an educational site)
 
Hi all my DC friends. Didn't know where to post this and there are just to many of you to PM all. I'm moving from Botswana back to South Africa in 2 days and won't be online often anymore :( Not sure for how long so I just wanted to say bye for now. I'll miss you all like crazy and hopefully I'll have internet access a day or 2 per weeks to come and pop in for a few minutes.
 
Hi all my DC friends. Didn't know where to post this and there are just to many of you to PM all. I'm moving from Botswana back to South Africa in 2 days and won't be online often anymore :( Not sure for how long so I just wanted to say bye for now. I'll miss you all like crazy and hopefully I'll have internet access a day or 2 per weeks to come and pop in for a few minutes.

Good luck on your move, Odette! When you get online, type fast! :ROFLMAO:

Message to all drivers on the freeway; Run for your lives! Here comes Odette! :ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO::ROFLMAO:
 
Hi all my DC friends. Didn't know where to post this and there are just to many of you to PM all. I'm moving from Botswana back to South Africa in 2 days and won't be online often anymore :( Not sure for how long so I just wanted to say bye for now. I'll miss you all like crazy and hopefully I'll have internet access a day or 2 per weeks to come and pop in for a few minutes.

Come back, Little Snipper, as soon as you can. Good luck with your move.
 
Hi all my DC friends. Didn't know where to post this and there are just to many of you to PM all. I'm moving from Botswana back to South Africa in 2 days and won't be online often anymore :( Not sure for how long so I just wanted to say bye for now. I'll miss you all like crazy and hopefully I'll have internet access a day or 2 per weeks to come and pop in for a few minutes.


I hadn't been here long but you were one of the first people I connected with. I hope you'll be able to get online as much as possible. I'd surely miss you. I hope everything goes well with the move.
 
Odette.
please know how much you will be missed. All of your DC family and friends wish you the best and we all will be thinking and watching for you. Take care my friend.
kades
 
I'm going to miss you, Odette!!!! And I'm going to worry about you while you're in SA! Be watchful.
 

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