Petty Vents

[dragnlaw]

Addie, I think it is wonderful that he wants to dance with you. The fact that he asked means he knows you are/will be up to it!

I also think you are wrong about what people will think. Why on earth would you be embarrassed? You did not lose your leg on purpose! It is a fact of life. Look at all your brave soldiers who are struggling to overcome injuries as well. You are a wonderful example to show them and everyone at the wedding that it doesn't matter the handicap - Life can and is still lived to the fullest.

YOU GO GIRL!!

 

[Just Cooking]

I wholeheartedly agree with dragnlaw..


There is, or should be, absolutely no shame in a physical impairment..



This will be a happy day for grandson and his bride. Please consider making them even more happy by proudly accepting his dance request.


You have a long time to work out the "how" details and I'm certain you will have the encouragement of both families..



Take joy when it occurs please..


My Jeannie has a blind daughter with a lovely grown child with Downs Syndrome.. They each find joy in all kinds of family and social situations..


Ross

 

[JustJoel]

Are you and your grandson close, geographically? If you are, maybe you could take a dance class with him. You’d have to find a studio that teaches ballroom dance to injured and disabled people. It shouldn’t be difficult to find one. You’d be sharing some valuable time with your grandson and expanding your limitations. Learning a “wheelchair waltz” will also give you confidence in other areas of your life.

 

[Addie]

Are you and your grandson close, geographically? If you are, maybe you could take a dance class with him. You’d have to find a studio that teaches ballroom dance to injured and disabled people. It shouldn’t be difficult to find one. You’d be sharing some valuable time with your grandson and expanding your limitations. Learning a “wheelchair waltz” will also give you confidence in other areas of your life.

No. He lives up by the border near NH. I live north of Boston Proper. I have only since him and his children once in the past two years. His job has crazy hours and it is hard for him to get time off. He is the General Manager of a Gambling Casino in NH.

 

[CharlieD]

... He is not accepting "No" for an answer.

And you know what, Good for him. He is Da Man! And you should not be embarrassed. You did not choose to have health problem. Worry not about starring, or whispers. Those will be whispers and starring of approval. Friends of ours had brought their grandfather to the granddaughters wedding in the wheel chair. Everybody were starring and whispering and crying because that was beautiful when she swing him around in hos wheel chair. Everybody approved. And you should not deny your grand child this moment of happiness. Moment he will cherish for the rest of this life. I wish my grandmothers could have been at my wedding even in wheel chair, oh how I missed them.

 

[PrincessFiona60]

I think you have your answer Addie, but I will still add my 2 cents.


We have monthly dances at our facility, most every one are in wheelchairs and we, the staff, love to dance with them. Those residents who are still ambulatory, love to dance with their co-residents in wheelchairs. We have videos and pictures of our residents in wheelchairs dancing. It is a sight to behold.


Besides, this is their day, all eyes will be on the lovely (loving) couple. And if you have a long enough dress on, no one will notice. See if you can get the shoes half price! LOL!

 

[Kayelle]

My grandson is getting married next summer. He told me that he wants to dance with me. I told him I now am the owner of just one leg. That is going to be very difficult to do.

"Don't worry Grandma. If I have to carry you on my back, I love this child and don't want to ruin his wedding. But I don't want to be embarrassed at the same time. I don't want everyone staring at me. I suppose he could push me around in my wheelchair. But there will still be staring going on when the see only one leg protruding on the one foot rest. The first dance with be with his bride. And he wants to have the second one with me, then his mother.

How do I get out of this gracefully? He is not accepting "No" for an answer.

Addie, the bottom line is this isn't about you, it's about him. Isn't that what love is all about? Enjoy giving the love of a grandmother with grace and smiles.

 

[Addie]

Addie, the bottom line is this isn't about you, it's about him. Isn't that what love is all about? Enjoy giving the love of a grandmother with grace and smiles.

Right now I am still sensitive about losing my leg. I still have nine months to adjust to the loss. My social worker told me that I am still in the mourning stage regarding the loss.

I ran into the jerk who asked me "Can I see your stump? I have never seen one." On day two of coming home from the hospital. Fortunately, he lives on the third floor and me on two. So unless I have to get on the elevator with him, it will be pretty easy to avoid him. I will just wait for him to go to his destination, then call for the elevator after I know he is off.

 

[Kayelle]

I understand that Addie.

My comment only pertained to your grandson's wedding, and nothing more.

 

[Addie]

I understand that Addie.

My comment only pertained to your grandson's wedding, and nothing more.

PF brought up an old and forgotten teenage time when our church choirs went to a State Hospital and danced with the patients in wheelchairs. I had forgotten about that. I will be dancing in my wheelchair. Or hopefully have my new leg by then. Either way, we will have the whole floor to ourselves.

 

[Caslon]

Petty vents off topic sick room all in one. Small biting insects too small to see that bite you. Yes, they exist. What bothers me is...like I said... YOU CANT SEE THEM, THEY'RE TOO TINY!

Oh Golly gee, Great! Now I have to do the following:"Bag all your clothes for a month" (not likely) "wash clothes in 60F or lower if possible (will try that, may add ice cubes).

I don't mean to open a thread about biting critters, so don't go there for forum sake.
Fleas, bed bugs, whaterver, you can see them.

Biting mites you can't even see with the naked eye? huh? what? !!!! No fair nature, no fair.

 

[GotGarlic]

I'm tired of seeing the image of someone's cut finger every time I open this post, so I'm changing it.

 

[Caslon]

I'm not gonna kill the little tiny spider I saw the other day. Maybe in that world, that kind preys on biting mites I can't even see.

 

[Mad Cook]

Petty vents off topic sick room all in one. Small biting insects too small to see that bite you. Yes, they exist. What bothers me is...like I said... YOU CANT SEE THEM, THEY'RE TOO TINY!

Oh Golly gee, Great! Now I have to do the following:"Bag all your clothes for a month" (not likely) "wash clothes in 60F or lower if possible (will try that, may add ice cubes).

I don't mean to open a thread about biting critters, so don't go there for forum sake.
Fleas, bed bugs, whaterver, you can see them.

Biting mites you can't even see with the naked eye? huh? what? !!!! No fair nature, no fair.

"They" say that if you suspect that you have had moths, etc., at your woollies you should wash the garment (if suitable) and, when dry, put them in sealed poly bags and stash them in the freezer for a couple of weeks or so. Apparently, the cold kills the eggs and larvae as well as any lingering adults.

I'm not in the (wasteful) habit of washing my jumpers, etc., after every wearing but I don't put them away without washing them if they need it.

When I first moved back into my parents (20th century) house I was made away with moths but my former home was relatively un-modernised Victorian cottage - in the 30 years I lived in the latter I never saw a single moth or the evidence that one had visited. In this house I resorted to spraying liberal amounts of flying insect spray in the bedroom every morning for two or three summers. Now I rarely see moths but woe betide any that do sneak in!

Incidentally, it is said (and I have no proof that either method actually works but my mother swore by them) that oak furniture will deter insects as will lining your drawers with newspaper. Both are old recommendations and modern newsprint may not be toxic to the nasties.

 

[caseydog]

"They" say that if you suspect that you have had moths, etc., at your woollies you should wash the garment (if suitable) and, when dry, put them in sealed poly bags and stash them in the freezer for a couple of weeks or so. Apparently, the cold kills the eggs and larvae as well as any lingering adults.

I'm not in the (wasteful) habit of washing my jumpers, etc., after every wearing but I don't put them away without washing them if they need it.

When I first moved back into my parents (20th century) house I was made away with moths but my former home was relatively un-modernised Victorian cottage - in the 30 years I lived in the latter I never saw a single moth or the evidence that one had visited. In this house I resorted to spraying liberal amounts of flying insect spray in the bedroom every morning for two or three summers. Now I rarely see moths but woe betide any that do sneak in!

Incidentally, it is said (and I have no proof that either method actually works but my mother swore by them) that oak furniture will deter insects as will lining your drawers with newspaper. Both are old recommendations and modern newsprint may not be toxic to the nasties.

It is not the moths, but the moth larvae that eat your wool clothing. I keep my woolens in the closet in moth-proof hanging bags. If you keep the moths from laying eggs in your woolens, you are good to go.

It is cedar, not oak, that you use to line closets or build drawers with to deter moths. You can even put small blocks of cedar into your drawers or bags to deter moths. Nature's moth balls.

BTW, freezing will kill moth eggs and larvae, but the best plan is to keep the eggs from being laid.

CD

 

[Caslon]

How bout I put a bunch of ice cubes in my a cold water washes for a month?

(micro spiders, do your thing, eat those biting mites too small to see.).

 

[taxlady]

I remember reading the results of a test. It wasn't the cedar or the oak that kept away the moths. It was that cedar and oak chests were usually of high quality and close tightly enough to keep the moths and larva out.

 

[Caslon]

I drank too many rum and cokes recently. If they bit me around that time, they got more than they bargained for.

 

[caseydog]

I drank too many rum and cokes recently. If they bit me around that time, they got more than they bargained for.

Maybe they were Cuban gnats. Cuba Libre!

CD

 

[Chef Munky]

Not impressed with the update Samsung did with my phone.
That update almost fried it. Wasn't able to charge it up until it cooled down.
They changed all of my icons.Basically took over my phone.

Today I get a message from someone who used my real name telling me to "put this on my phone so I can send you a quick video message"It's a marcopolovideo.com.What is that?

I looked up the #.The txt came in from Kentucky.It's not on my contacts list.

Any ideas? I have my own.


Munky.