Petty Vents

[Cooking Goddess]

@Jusa It sounds like it's time to get a new husband. It won't solve the whole problem, but it will waste less of your time and probably cut down on the level of aggravation.

There, taxy, I fixed it for you.

@Jusa, the model of husband I got sounds a lot like the one you have. I don't know how long you two have been married, but our 49th wedding anniversary is six weeks away from tomorrow. Still haven't trained mine up correctly...

 

[Jusa]

There, taxy, I fixed it for you.

@Jusa, the model of husband I got sounds a lot like the one you have. I don't know how long you two have been married, but our 49th wedding anniversary is six weeks away from tomorrow. Still haven't trained mine up correctly...

Only 24 years and yeah...the only things he's really fabulous about domestically are doing laundry and taking out the trash without being asked. So that's something. He will try to unload the dishwasher sometimes but if I'm not there to assist, things end up in weird places, lol. Oh and he can make chicken cordon blue and Italian wedding soup. He makes a big mess doing it but it's very tasty.

He's got a lot of other great qualities so I think I'll keep him.

 

[Marlingardener]

Oh Jusa, definitely keep him. I've seen some of the later models and they just don't measure up!

 

[Kathleen]

ohhh Kathleen! do you have one of those tables? Where can I get one!

No idea. I've yet to find one that works.

 

[GinnyPNW]

Oh, my gosh! We had some errands to do, so decided to grab a quick lunch at a local Wendy's. As soon as we walked in the door, we noticed a young boy, maybe 4-years old, sitting with Dad and his sister, maybe 8-years old. The young boy was complaining about his lunch. He did NOT like it. He told Dad that he wanted to go to McDonald's. Dad asked him what is wrong with his burger...and the conversation continued back and forth. We got our food and chose a seat at the far side of the dining room. Still, the complaints continued, getting louder and louder. Finally, the boy announced, FU Daddy...but not abbreviated. Dad and sister laughed and Dad said something about, "Next time." The boy repeated his FU Daddy...and then screamed it over and over, maybe 5 or 6 times. I was dumbfounded. By the time we were ready to leave, they were still arguing. Although, Dad seemed more amused than anything?

I didn't even know that word, at that young age, and never would I have ever considered yelling at my folks. DH was raised in his grandparents' home. His grandparents migrated to the U.S. from Europe. To say corporal punishment happened would be an understatement! I told DH that I think if he had ever acted similarly, that he probably wouldn't be able to sit down until sometime after his high school graduation!

Anyway, I can only imagine where one goes from that behavior at such a young age....

 

[dragnlaw]

How very sad...

Edit:-
of course, the child doesn't know what he is saying, other than it is something he hears all the time when someone is angry. At 4 years of age, unless he is constantly bombarded with porn movies, he doesn't even know what sex is yet!
Worst part is - it won't get better. Which is why it is soo sad.

 

[Texmex]

I'm about to blow a fuse over the state of grocery delivery today. I had a big job come in so I'm trying to just get the few groceries delivered instead of having to go to the store. I could have gone to the store twice in the time it's taking me just to get refunds on their screw-ups.

So this morning I ordered from Albertsons and as soon as I placed the delivery order, I get their text telling me they're pulling the pickup order. I did not order a pickup order. So I called the store and talked to the delivery manager and expected them to straighten it out but they never did nor did they turn in a refund. The food just sat there all day. So I called their customer service and it will be several days before I get my refund.

So then I worked and was still working when I placed a delivery order from Kroger which is twice as expensive and through instacart. So I start getting texts from them and finally the guys at my house and drops it off, ignoring the note in the file that tells them not to block the front door with the groceries. So I have to knock those all over the porch to get the door open (this has happened so many times now that the bottom of my door is broken). And when I do get the groceries inside it is not my order. It is a bunch of crap for children like Kool-Aid and cold medicine and some soups.

Used to be Kroger had decent customer service and you could get a hold of a person pretty easy but now they've changed it and it took me 10 minutes of saying no no no no no to get past their automated service. And I have to wait a week to get a refund from them so I have like $100 outstanding and no groceries. Grrrrrr. I'm sure my blood pressure is like 300.

 

[blissful]

@Texmex that sounds just horrible for things to get screwed up at 2 stores and have to follow up trying to get refunds.
We've never had our groceries delivered here, ever, not even during covid. I would rather go without than deal with what you've had to deal with. Sorry to hear it.

 

[pepperhead212]

I have never had a delivery, either, except one that wasn't mine, during the pandemic. It was for someone else on the street, from Wal-Mart, but they had my number on the order. It was a large order, with a bunch of disinfectant things, plus a bunch of fiber bars, and foods I didn't really use, but not bad stuff, and there were 3 bags of them. I called WM before I even took it off my porch, to tell them it was here, but they told me to keep it - they wouldn't re-deliver it, or re-stock it, I guess worried it could have been infected!

I also had two wrong items from Amazon, and both times was told to keep them. The first time, probably close to 20 years ago, I actually spoke to a human! Imagine that! She told me that it would cost them more with most things to bring them back, and re-stock, than to just send the right one out (hopefully!), and tell me to keep the first one.

 

[Texmex]

@Texmex that sounds just horrible for things to get screwed up at 2 stores and have to follow up trying to get refunds.
We've never had our groceries delivered here, ever, not even during covid. I would rather go without than deal with what you've had to deal with. Sorry to hear it.

I don't mind going now that the weather is cool but through the summer it was so hot here and I just can't take the heat so delivery was the best option.

 

[Texmex]

I was telling my sister about my experiences yesterday and she told me she had changed to WalMart delivery and that they usually did a good job, and she has a subscription that's monthly which I just refuse to do. But she said the one time they did deliver the wrong groceries to her, they had the gall to ask her to come up to the store and return them. And no my sister was not about to do that. She is 77 and does not go to the grocery store.

I am considering ordering from them today or tomorrow because I still need groceries but I am getting out later so I can just stop by Kroger on the way home maybe. I would like to shop at Walmart sometimes but they never have more than about one handy scooter and there's usually 50 people lined up to use it, most of whom are not handicapped. They need to get with the program and have more scooters because their stores are huge. There is one thing I would like to get there that's a lot less expensive if you buy it there and it's just a athlete's foot cream. But the delivery is 10 bucks and that's I and that's the same approximate price it is from Kroger.

Albertsons which is the same company as Tom Thumb has a better pricing system that the price depends on how specific you want the time and since I am home a lot I can use the cheapest one usually. But they're the ones who yesterday did a pickup order instead of a delivery order like I turned in and never fixed it.

During covid I was using pickup at Target most of the time because they did not have a minimum. So if I just needed to go there and buy two things I could do that in the parking lot. They also did not have a tip thing set up at that time to prompt you to tip but I think they do now. Everyone else has a minimum. And of course that's fine until you get an incomplete order and you need one ingredient so you can make dinner and then you're stuck with having to go to the store anyway but you've already paid the high prices for delivery and you still have to go to the store so it's just a big waste. So yeah anyone who's physically able and has time to always go to the store it's certainly cheaper and more efficient.

I can't carry heavy things so sometimes there's something I don't want to have to carry from my car to the refrigerator like soft drinks and dog food. But at some point it becomes 6 of one and half dozen of the other because if you order stuff like that delivered, it may or may not come in a big box you still have to break down and take out to the trash and deal with. I'm pretty tired of dealing with boxes at this point. I have some stacked up I need to take out right now. I can do it but I have one torn shoulder plus I have to get down a couple of steps with whatever it is to go to the alley. Instead of going down the steps with trash in my hands which is risky because I have horrible knees, I've been throwing the stuff down the stairs.

 

[blissful]

@Texmex you need a kind neighbor to pick up groceries for you, and take those boxes out and trash to the street. Sometimes people want to help but don't know if asking will sit well with the recipient. People that want to give a hand don't mind and enjoy it as well.

 

[GinnyPNW]

@Texmex you need a kind neighbor to pick up groceries for you, and take those boxes out and trash to the street. Sometimes people want to help but don't know if asking will sit well with the recipient. People that want to give a hand don't mind and enjoy it as well.

I was thinking along those lines too! I have a neighbor that likes to remind me that they have a teenage boy that would be happy to help! It first came up when we didn't decorate our house for the holidays. Very sweet!

 

[blissful]

@Texmex let the relationship with the teenage boy be a two way street. Maybe offer to pay a fee just like the fees from grocery delivery?
We have a 30ish year old son of our neighbor that was interested in beekeeping. So we invited him to come help, and he has and with it he's gotten education on beekeeping this summer. He can also lift large boxes of bees that a 72 year old would struggle with. We gifted him a beekeeper's suit. He helped us with extracting honey too. We gave him honey for that. He helped us move heavy picnic tables to the deck and we share some honey lemonade and dessert after every time they check the bees. He joined in going to the monthly beekeepers club meeting/education. Next year he is going to add a couple hives of his own to our apiary and we'll both be selling honey next year. We've had a really fun summer with him.

 

[Texmex]

@Texmex you need a kind neighbor to pick up groceries for you, and take those boxes out and trash to the street. Sometimes people want to help but don't know if asking will sit well with the recipient. People that want to give a hand don't mind and enjoy it as well.

One of my neighbors has several small children and has their hands full. The other is as crippled up as I am. My handyman costs $40 an hour. And you know you need to keep trying to do things or your body will just get worse but there are some days I just don't feel like it.

 

[Texmex]

@Texmex let the relationship with the teenage boy be a two way street. Maybe offer to pay a fee just like the fees from grocery delivery?
We have a 30ish year old son of our neighbor that was interested in beekeeping. So we invited him to come help, and he has and with it he's gotten education on beekeeping this summer. He can also lift large boxes of bees that a 72 year old would struggle with. We gifted him a beekeeper's suit. He helped us with extracting honey too. We gave him honey for that. He helped us move heavy picnic tables to the deck and we share some honey lemonade and dessert after every time they check the bees. He joined in going to the monthly beekeepers club meeting/education. Next year he is going to add a couple hives of his own to our apiary and we'll both be selling honey next year. We've had a really fun summer with him.

I literally don't have any teenagers for neighbors. I live in Dallas and they don't even make teenage boys mow their lawns here! I had this lawn man years ago whose grandson turned 12 so he brought him along on a job to teach him how to help with the lawn, and the mother, my lawn man's daughter, threw a fit. It's a different mindset than when you get out of ways into the country or small town. Out there everyone learns how to do stuff.

 

[GinnyPNW]

I see online that there are "Senior Discounts" available on delivery services at various grocery stores. Albertson's says contact your local store to inquire about same.

Not that the discount will help with the last issues...but all the same, maybe it would offset some of the future costs.

 

[blissful]

@Texmex I agree, stay active and do as much as you can so you can keep your level of health and activities, absolutely yes.
On the other hand, everyone needs a hand once in a while. The vehicle breaks down and we need a ride, or we get sick and we need a grocery delivery. Even being very active and self sufficient will have hiccups.
In our area, people use nextdoor.com, where you register according to your address. You are put in contact with neighbors. I've seen posts of people needing weekly grocery deliveries, or weekly grocery trips with someone else driving, and help with getting to doctor's appointments. A person posts what they need and LOTS of neighbors offer help. This same application has neighborhood announcements, things for sale, and free things, community events, emergency information and recommendations for doctors, hair dressers, home repairs, car repairs. If Dallas has it there is a lot of information available if you want to look.

 

[Texmex]

@Texmex I agree, stay active and do as much as you can so you can keep your level of health and activities, absolutely yes.
On the other hand, everyone needs a hand once in a while. The vehicle breaks down and we need a ride, or we get sick and we need a grocery delivery. Even being very active and self sufficient will have hiccups.
In our area, people use nextdoor.com, where you register according to your address. You are put in contact with neighbors. I've seen posts of people needing weekly grocery deliveries, or weekly grocery trips with someone else driving, and help with getting to doctor's appointments. A person posts what they need and LOTS of neighbors offer help. This same application has neighborhood announcements, things for sale, and free things, community events, emergency information and recommendations for doctors, hair dressers, home repairs, car repairs. If Dallas has it there is a lot of information available if you want to look.

I am on nextdoor, but for some reason it takes like 5 days for posts to show up. When I first joined it was so good for immediate things like crime alerts and lost pets. But now it's days before anyone gets the post here in Dallas.

Last week I had a big limb fall off a tree and I went out there with my handsaw and took a chair with me because I can't stand up more than a couple of minutes without needing to sit back down. And one of my neighbors did bring over a chainsaw and helped a lot. I would have been out there for 2 days doing it by hand but I would have eventually gotten it done!

I have always wished that there was a teenager or two around close. It's hard to imagine why there never has been. My neighbors with kids had like four young ones and so they were frantically busy and I've had about three sets of those plus one across the street. The guy across the street used to help me out some but he really has his hands full. For a while he wasn't working outside the home much and was more or less doing most of the child care but now he is working some and they're both just juggling to get the child care covered so I hate to ask them for anything but if I had an emergency, he would probably try but he's alone with those kids a lot. Last time I asked him to do something he said he'll talk to his wife and see if they can work out a time when she can watch the kids but she works outside the home more than he does.

I had to spend too much on my car this summer so I really can't be using my handyman right now. But what I like to do is save up a few little things for him to do in one visit and he will do just about anything. But he is not cheap.

I used to say instead of a dog I need a pack mule, but I'd still have to follow them to the trash barrel!

 

[taxlady]

I see online that there are "Senior Discounts" available on delivery services at various grocery stores. Albertson's says contact your local store to inquire about same.

Not that the discount will help with the last issues...but all the same, maybe it would offset some of the future costs.

I was going to suggest looking for that. One of the places I order groceries from, Voilà.ca offers free delivery for seniors and folks with mobility problems. I just had to phone them and now all my deliveries are free with a minimum purchase of $35.