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Old 06-28-2012, 09:19 AM   #1
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Prayers and Thoughts Needed

I went back and forth about whether to post anything. My husband and I tend to be fairly private in dealing with hardship, only talking to the closest of friends and family. Ultimately, I decided no to Facebook, but yes to here.

My husband's sister has been batteling intestinal cancer for about 4 years. A year ago we found out she had tumors in several lymph-nodes, her liver, and one of her lungs. Last January the chemo stoped working. The tumors weren't shrinking and had started growing again. Yesterday we found out the cancer has spread to her brain. The doctors said she has about a month. Anything beyond that is luck or a miracle.

If you pray, could you please keep her in your prayers. Her name is Tena. I can't imagine how frightened and sad she must be fealing, please pray that she is given comfort and strength. She needs all that she can get. If you don't pray, she could use all the positive energy and thoughts you can spare.

Could you please also keep her family in your prayers. She is at the center of the family, the one who keeps in touch with everyone and holds everyone together. It's hit us all pretty hard. Losing someone is never easy, but losing the one that keeps the family feeling like a family, instead of just a group of people who share genetics, comes with worries and sorrow beyond the loss of that person.

For me, she was the first of my husband's family to accept me. To this day her and her sons are the only ones that have really embraced me as belonging. I can't pretend to know what my husband or the others are feeling, but I know I'm losing a dear friend and ally. I'm losing a sister.


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Old 06-28-2012, 09:29 AM   #2
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My prayers are with her and her family. May she recieve a miracle of full and complete recovery.

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Old 06-28-2012, 09:31 AM   #3
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prayers and positive thoughts coming you way not just for you but Tena and your family. May peace be with all of you and may kindness fill your soul's. May love wrap it's arms around you, hold you tight and whisper in your ear love is yours now and forever.
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Old 06-28-2012, 09:40 AM   #4
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I'm not much of a spiritual person, but your family is in my thoughts.

Coincidentally, I have an ex-sister-in-law I was close to at one time who is going through the same thing. She went into hospice care a couple of weeks ago and is expected to pass any day now. It's a tough thing to go through.
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Old 06-28-2012, 09:49 AM   #5
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It's hard to lose someone so special. My mom had the same role in my family and it was about a year before we found our footing as a family again. It's not the same without her but we manage. Prayers for you and your loved ones.
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As an oncologist once told me, "no one knows enough to be a pessimist." One has to believe.
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Old 06-28-2012, 10:52 AM   #7
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i'm so sorry, pag.

as i like to say my prayers when i do menial work on things like gardening or cleaning, i will say a rosary for tena and your family today as i do my chores, that god's will be done in a way that she has as much time as possible here on earth without suffering, and that your family finds some peace and strength together through his love.
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Old 06-28-2012, 11:16 AM   #8
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(((Hugs PAG))) I'll send some positive energy.
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Old 06-28-2012, 11:29 AM   #9
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So sorry PAG, my thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
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Old 06-28-2012, 11:35 AM   #10
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Our thoughts and prayers are for your friend, for you and for your family.
May God grant you the strength to endure this ordeal.
Please know that everyone here at D.C. has you in their thoughts.

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