Yea I don't want to start over either, done that too many times as well! I do want to go slow and cautious this time around. My experience is that I have come across two types of successful quiters: Those that took thier time and included lifestyle and dietary changes in over the course of 6 months to a year, and those that went cold turkey and never looked back.
Cold turkey didn't work for me
so I am going to go with slow and cautious, one step at a time. I have the patch, and they want you done with the program in 2 1/2 to 3 months. I think it should be done more over 6 or more months.
Even my therapists husband who is using the gum is taking more than 6 months and so far has not back slid.. gives me hope.