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Old 06-17-2008, 09:54 AM   #11
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Do you know how your day can start out one way and do a sudden 180 and be completely different? Well, last night I was helping DD plan her wedding for September 6th when she ran into several snags with her family and with our Pastor who didn't want to marry them if they lived together for the next three months.

These kids truly love each other and have been through so much with health and family. It was so sad to see them so up one minute and so down the next.

Well, they talked and prayed and consulted with us and others in their life and at 6:00 pm tonight we are going to our local park and they are quietly getting married in the Japanese garden there.

Her family thinks they are totally crazy and his family is so estranged he is not telling them (we are going to be the "parents of the groom"). I personally see their love for each other in their eyes and I remember how this is very similar to how and why we got married in our backyard under an apple tree. I know this will work for them.

They are going to move in for awhile until they get back on their feet financially and that is more than okay with us. They will be a big help for me when I am incapacitated and also it is just good to have them close.

I know they will take a lot of flack for what they are doing, but I know they have really reached deep inside themselves and this is the right thing to do.

We will have a big reception in a month or so when things settle down and I am really looking forward to that.

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Old 06-17-2008, 10:02 AM   #12
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Congratulations, Laurie! It sounds lovely!!! This really does sound like the right thing. Those 2 love each other and don't want to stir up a feuding family anymore than they already are. We have a Japanese garden here, too, and it is the site of many, many weddings. I know it will be gorgeous. And we also need a little joy here at DC right now to remind us that there is sweet with the bitter as well as the other way around. I hope you will take lots of pictures so that we can share in this lovely event. (I know you will be a lovely mother of the bride and groom.)

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Old 06-17-2008, 11:34 AM   #13
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Laurie, That is absolutely wonderful!! BTW, it is almost what DH and I did, we had a Justice of Peace and then a reception a month later. Congratulations to the "parent" of the bride and groom. You must be soooo proud!! Thank you for such great news. Dawn ;>)
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Old 06-17-2008, 11:45 AM   #14
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wow! that's great that they're getting married!
can't wait to hear 'bout thier reception!
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Old 06-17-2008, 02:19 PM   #15
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Sounds wonderful, please post some pics afterwards!
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Old 11-15-2008, 01:19 PM   #16
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I originally started this post during a time of sadness here at DC because we lost one of our own. It was to be a place in between venting and smiling and celebrating, where we could come and just reflect on our lives.

I am at a point of reflection once again.

1. My relationship with my daughter is still estranged but I know we did what we had to do and love always wins in the end.
2. I have been through 2 knee surgeries and and doing well, but not healing as fast as they would like
3. DH's temporary job didn't become permanent as we hoped, but he has been applying and these jobs seem even better.
4. We had our place flooded out by a sewer problem and while it was a harrowing experience, it is forcing us to go through stuff and really decide what is important and what can go. It is kind of a physical and emotional cleaning house.
5. All the above is showing me that GIG, even in the bad.
6. It is also showing me what wonderful friends I have here at DC and in my life.

Is there anything you are reflecting upon in your life right now?
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Old 11-15-2008, 01:35 PM   #17
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Hi Laurie,

It is amazing to me that the more you live life, the more that you have in common with others.

1) My relationship with my DD is great right now. In fact she has said that she speaks with her father every day and it is the high point of her day. It gets no better than that. There was a time that we did not speak for at least two years. I was going through a divorce and she was going through wild times. She never got a long with her mom a lot and still doesn't. No fights, just not a relationship. we had a falling out and I missed some of my grandchildren's early years.

2) I have two artificial hips and they gave me my mobility and life back, but, I do know the pain before and the healing. Knees are harder. Keep at it, it is great to be mobile again.

3) Work is slow and bittersweet. I am self employed. ome days I would just like to fire my self and apply for benefits. Ithere may be a job in the offering. It would mean giving up my business that I have had for close to, or over 20 years. It has been my life's dream. Closing a business that can feed me, evern, minimally at times and working for someone in the depressed American economy is cause for a lot of reflecting.

4) I have not been flooded, ecently, but, my first thoughts when I read of it were about going through your life's memories and seeing how much of your past that has been lost. I have had this happen at a few points in my life.

5) I hope for guidance, as I hope that you will be guided. I take strength in "That which does not kill us, makes us stronger" and "If he brings you to it, he will bring you through it."

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Old 11-15-2008, 01:37 PM   #18
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Laurie... you are a gem! It is refreshing to read your post and I know what you mean and what you are saying. We are here for you, we will support you, and if you even need a sholder to lay your head on, well, we are here for that too! I'm thankful for having the opportunity to get to know you better and I really think you are a blessing to this forum girlie!!! I luv ya!!
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Old 11-15-2008, 01:50 PM   #19
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Laurie, I missed this when you started it, it is a great ides - so I often I am neither happy or really down - just a bit sad. At the moment I just don't know about my main job - I have three part time ones. This is deputy of a pre school. I love working with children, love seeing them grow and mature, but we now have so much paper work that has to be done and completed that it depresses me. I want to do it all but there is so much work involved.
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Old 11-15-2008, 02:07 PM   #20
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Adillo, thanks for the peek into your life and all the similarities. It is funny how when we look at others we see so much of ourselves.

Sattie, you are sweet. And I have a shoulder for you as well. I am hoping that this thread can be a place where we can all just say what's on our minds.

And miniman, I feel for you with your job. DH and I gave up our internet business because the administration was getting in the way of really being able to look after our clients, much the same as you and the kids. And you really have the right idea about this thread - it is not about being happy, sad, mad....it is just about being.

Thanks all for sharing and I hope others will as well.

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