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Old 07-12-2009, 10:25 AM   #11
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My Hubby is doing much better, still trying to answer the whys, but coming to terms that there was nothing he could do.
KE- That's what I told him, I said Pauly wanted to make sure someone knew where he could be if he came up missing.
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Old 07-12-2009, 09:13 PM   #12
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My Hubby is doing much better, still trying to answer the whys, but coming to terms that there was nothing he could do.
KE- That's what I told him, I said Pauly wanted to make sure someone knew where he could be if he came up missing.

Mikki - There is no making something like this better. But I will say this. Just being a silent strong loving partner, is all I'd ask or want, if I had you in my life.

Be strong, and loving... he needs that now. Silence is okay to.

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Old 07-12-2009, 09:55 PM   #13
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I am very sorry for your loss. The only consolation is if someone has made the decision to end their own suffering, there is little anyone can do to prevent it.

If his life was going to below what he could accept as worthy of life, he made his decision. Take comfort that there is nothing anyone could have done after that decision was made.
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Old 07-12-2009, 10:32 PM   #14
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Guilt is always there in the survivors after a suicide. My husband went through the same thing with one of his friends. It really pushed my love into the deep end. Just being there is enough for now. I'm sorry your family and friends are going through this.
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Old 07-13-2009, 07:58 AM   #15
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I am so sorry for your loss. Don't worry about what you say sounding stupid. Just sit and hold his hand.
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Old 07-15-2009, 02:12 PM   #16
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Mikki!

I just noticed this, and I'm not on as much as I'd like to be. I'm so sorry!! I don't know what to say, because not enough words can make you feel better.

I am here for you, if you need to talk about anything. Just send me a private message. I wish I could give you a big HUG right now.

You, your DH and his friend's family are in my prayers.
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Old 07-15-2009, 06:16 PM   #17
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Thanks everyone, visiting was yesterday ( I went) funeral was today ( couldn't go) Hubby said it was really hard, Pauly did leave a note and it was read at the funeral. The motorcycles led the way from the funeral to the brunch type thing they had after. Very fitting
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Sounds like he had a good send-off. I'm happy for that.

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Thanks everyone, visiting was yesterday ( I went) funeral was today ( couldn't go) Hubby said it was really hard, Pauly did leave a note and it was read at the funeral. The motorcycles led the way from the funeral to the brunch type thing they had after. Very fitting
Mikki - you, and everyone, were in my heart today!
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Thank You KE
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