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Old 05-06-2014, 02:41 AM   #21
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Old 05-06-2014, 02:45 AM   #22
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I was wondering about you today Cat. Sorry to hear about DA's health decline. You have been a wonderful caretaker to her, it's just that her memory is slipping even more with her worsening condition. If I were old and frail, I would be honored to have you as a companion.

Hopefully with Laki and her Mom moving in and your upcoming wedding with Carl those changes ahead will stabilize your life. You've dealt with much change in the short time you've been here. From what you have shared with us you see to be a very strong young woman with a level head.

And your GPA dropped to 3.7? That's still plenty high for dean's list, and much better than most students. If you were my daughter, I would be very proud of you keeping your GPA that high with all the stress you've had to deal with lately.
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Old 05-06-2014, 04:00 AM   #23
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Oh dear Cat, so much for one young woman to deal with. You know of course that DA was just confused because of her rapid health decline. She loves you very much and she knows you are a good girl :). I think you have been the best companion for DA, you have enriched her life and made her happy. So many elderly folks are lonely and do not have a happy life. You were able to make sure your DA was happy.
Now you have a new adventure to look forward to, sharing your home with friends, finishing school and getting married! We are all here in your corner, cheering you on!
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Old 05-06-2014, 08:53 AM   #24
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Love you, ~Cat! Take the time you need to get settled, we'll be here for you when you need us. Lots of Hugs!
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Old 05-06-2014, 10:37 AM   #25
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Cat, the care of DA in her final days was laid on your shoulders. You have done a magnificent job in caring for her. You have nothing to apologize for.

You have made some very wise decisions this past week. You won't be alone in the lovely home DA left you. You are a most fortunate young lady. And I am sure Mamma Cat and Papa are very proud of you. Just as all of us here at DC are.

Seeing a loved one's mental health deteriorate is hard to watch. But you gave your very best care you had in you. DA is going to have her wish granted. She has returned home to her homeland that she knew as a child. Be happy for her.

Take your time adjusting to your new life. And remember we are here.
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Old 05-07-2014, 08:40 PM   #26
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I don't know what to say! I love all of you, and thank you so very, very much for everything all of you have done for me!

I did do my very best, I swear, I did. I spoke to DA and she is happy to be home! She also said I did a wonderful job, but she is becoming forgetful of things too. She is now where she wants to be, and I am truly happy for her.

So many times I wanted to come here and look at Beth's house, and to keep up on your news but I couldn't. Poor DA, it isn't her fault and I tried to cope until I saw dangerous signs and I just called my parents right away without coming here for help first.

I hope all of you will forgive me for this. I do feel, had I come here, all of you would be strongly telling me to call Mamma. So I saved us some posting time, yes?

I am fortunate, and I will have my friends here. My life will be changing yet again soon and sometimes time happens so fast my head spins of it.

I have learned something very, very importantly. I became nervous and worried of DA and my life here at home. When life at home is not happy and there are troublesome issues here, I can't be at my best in anything else. The home life MUST be happy and everyone must be happy for to succeed outside of the home.

I am bringing this lesson into my marriage. I have spoken to Carl of this, and he has agreed. He promised me our home will be our small place of heaven, our retreat, and our sanctuary, and we shall strive for to do this. And so I promised him also.

I also tried to make him promise me as we got older, if I ever became like DA he would put me away in a nursing home. He wouldn't promise. He said we will speak of that when the time comes.

Mamma wants to return here until July. Papa's sister is caring for DA and Mamma wants to be with me. She said I could decide if I need her here or not and to think about it.

I will call her tomorrow. Carl and I spoke of this, so yes, I will ask her to come back until July. He loves her and also his mother will be able to visit here with Mamma before we all go to Romania. I think this is a good idea for everyone to know each other, yes?

Uck, so much, so much. I thank you all! DA is happy now and I am beginning to relax. I think I may be able to be all right very soon, and once again back to myself.

I did my best, and she is happy now, so now it is all right, yes?

With so much love to all of you,
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Old 05-07-2014, 09:13 PM   #27
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You've done good and right Cat.

Oh, our little Catina is getting all grown up right before our eyes.
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Old 05-07-2014, 10:18 PM   #28
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You did a fantastic job, ~Cat! DA was very lucky to have you and in her heart (where it counts) she knows you did everything you could for her.

Time to relax and study for finals.
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Old 05-08-2014, 12:04 AM   #29
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Oh I thank you both!

Yes, I am studying hard, and trying to grow up. Finals are a booger but they must be done well.

No one ever said life is easy, yes? I have learned so many lessons!

And I am sure I have many more to learn, yes?

Thank you!

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Cat, I am proud of you. You did very well.

Having looked after my father in his last years, I had to watch him deteriorate like you have with DA. It is very hard. You made the right decisions and both you and DA are in a better situation.

You are very wise about your marriage. It took TB and I many years to realize some of those things.
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