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Old 04-21-2014, 05:01 PM   #1
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Hi, everyone!

I'm sorry to not be so active here lately. DA is failing, and she has started hitting me. Mamma is coming tonight to assess her situation and she may decide to take DA home earlier than July.

Carl and Laki and their Mammas are doing well and looking forward to the vacation in Romania! Catina II, at last estimate will be ready for her sea trials by the middle of June! I can't wait to see her! A good man in one's life and a wonderful fishing vessel makes life so wonderful, yes?

I've had many visits to the lawyer with DA, and I own our home now. DA has arranged a generous trust for me, so no matter where I am, our home will be safe. We have been discussing renting the main floors to Laki and her Mamma. Our home is already paid for and in a nice safe place. I wish to keep my Lair as my American home. I stand to inherit the businesses of our family, so I may be everywhere! Poor Carl!

When I come back in August, I will be taking on a full schedule of classes. I won't have DA here, and I will be very lonely, so I may as well do this. I am NOT looking forward to coming home alone. I don't know how I will manage but I will try.

One very interesting thing which happened was this: Remember I asked if I was rude, and one said I was rude for signing my posts in another forum, a political forum? I was nice, and the administrator GAVE me a vBulletin site he wasn't using and said to make it a nice place! This is a long story, but now I have an active website which is not in competition to DC or that political forum! It coincided well with "social media," which I am learning, and it's my project. I sent my prof an email and said, "Google this" and she did, and it was first on the list of Google! I received an A and no one else did anything like this! It's very nice website!

I didn't ever speak to anyone here of this until now. No members here are there. The administrator who gave me the website gave me permission to invite others from his other two websites, and we did. I want this to be known that I have not asked anyone here to be there, nor will I.

So I have been busy, and I'm sorry I wasn't here so much. DA is very fussy now and I feel so very badly for her. She is just tired and wishes to go home, I think. I think I'll feel better with Mamma here; at least maybe I can sleep a little bit more. DA has become very odd about what she will and won't eat, and I always fix her what she wishes. I yearn to cook more! But with Mamma here, I might.

I love you all, and I keep all of you in my prayers. When Mamma comes, I hope to have more time here with my precious friends! I will certainly work of this, yes?

With love,
~Cat

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Old 04-21-2014, 08:50 PM   #2
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There is one thing about DC I have in my journal:

"Never look upon this website when one is hungry." So very true! Ha!

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Old 04-21-2014, 09:02 PM   #3
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Old 04-21-2014, 09:04 PM   #4
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Cat, you are experiencing the true rollercoaster ride that life offers. All our life events are what hone and polish us and mold us into the people we become.

I'm sorry to hear that DA is having a decline, but from your accounts she's had a very rich life, especially having you round to assist her. From your description it sounds as though she may be in the early stages of Alzheimer's Disease, which does affect her thinking, memory and behavior. This may explain her hitting you.

It's good that your mother is going to be there to help assess the situation. Lean on her and don't blame yourself for what is going on. And...don't forget, you have Carl to be part of your support system.

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My thoughts exactly, but you put it in much better words than I could have, Katie.

Best wishes to you Cat, and do lean on your family. You have a lot on your plate, for being as young as you are.
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Is it in the evening when DA gets fussy and hits? I'm so sorry this has happened, but with her being able to go home, which is what she wants, maybe she will be less fussy. Holler at me in private if you have any questions about elder care, always happy to help.

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Is it in the evening when DA gets fussy and hits? I'm so sorry this has happened, but with her being able to go home, which is what she wants, maybe she will be less fussy. Holler at me in private if you have any questions about elder care, always happy to help.

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Cat, if there is anyone who can give you the best advice on caring for DA it is the PrincessFiona60. Do turn to her if you have any questions of caring for DA. Caring for the elderly is her life's work. And she has the knowledge. She is a very loving, caring person and will help you as much as you need it.

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Old 04-23-2014, 01:53 AM   #9
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Thank you all so very much! I thank you all for understanding!

Yes, it is the evening when DA hits me. I'm afraid of her mental state. She also yells at me for the smallest of things, such as her tea not hot enough, although I make it the same every time. Sometimes she likes it, sometimes not. It is so confusing.

Katie, you're correct. And Addie, and all of you are so helpful and correct. I may ask my Ogress for help yet. This experience has made me realize to be even more extremely patient with her. She has had a wonderful life, and I think the Alzheimer's or the dementia has to be what is wrong.

I'm so glad I called my parents when this became very worrisome. Gwen stayed with DA while Mamma and I went out for dinner tonight at a nice place, and we just talked of this.

Mamma is calling her doctor tomorrow, and wants a mental health evaluation for DA. I suppose DA will be referred to a specialist, so we will see. Mamma told me to leave it to her, that she is here now and will take care of us both. Carl is so sweet, he also is willing to do anything to help us. Laki, of course, is the same as well.

We shall see. I'm worried of this to become a long road, perhaps, but a road we must take. Mamma said to start with her doctor, and we will see.

I thank you all so very much for your caring! I'll be certain to tell you all of how this progresses. This, I feel, may be very difficult for all of us.

I do know that I think I have the best Mamma and Papa in the world and I adore DA, no matter what. It's best to look at this as of learning and yet loving, yes?

Thank you all so very much! You all have lifted my heart.

With very much love and deep appreciation,
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Old 04-23-2014, 02:32 AM   #10
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Hang in there Cat. I know this is hard for you. Just remember as you struggle with the changes now affecting DA that you have been a true blessing in her life. Hugs to you and the rest of your large "family", blood or not. You are all in my thoughts.
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