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Old 10-09-2013, 10:12 AM   #51
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I could not help it. I saw this and my heart hurt immediately and I was stopped in walking to her and just cried. I did not cry much because they were laughing at me and I was humiliated and angry.

They do not understand what having this car is meaning to me. Their parents buy them cars, yes, and my parents paid for this, but it is much different. I do not know how to explain of this, but having my Joy is just different.

Thank you, taxlady. Is Shreddy doing well with his treatments?

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Oh, my dear, I think they DO know what the car means to you, else why would they have done what they did.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:13 AM   #52
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No, Cat, do NOT say this. If you think it, you are, effectively, saying it was your fault. It wasn't. THEY are the people at fault here not you. I can't think of bad enough words to describe them.
Cat--do NOT blame yourself for their behaviour. Their behaviour is unacceptable. Your car is your car and they had no right to do anything to it. What they did was mean spirited. You do not need people like that as friends. There are a lot nicer people in the world who will not behave like that.

Practical jokes are not intended to hurt the other person. The fact that you were hurt makes what they did beyond the boundaries of what constitutes a practical joke.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:14 AM   #53
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No, Cat, do NOT say this. If you think it, you are, effectively, saying it was your fault. It wasn't. THEY are the people at fault here not you. I can't think of bad enough words to describe them.
Sometimes I got picked on in school for being different. That doesn't mean I'm saying it was my fault.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:18 AM   #54
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Sadly, she died. I will bury her under the cedar bush where she liked to nap. RIP, Giselle.
So sorry to hear this, CWS.
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Sometimes I got picked on in school for being different. That doesn't mean I'm saying it was my fault.
Exactly!
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:25 AM   #56
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I hadn't thought of that. It might be cultural differences. I don't know what the university culture is like where Cat lives.

CG, I think your advise is excellent.
I can't think of any culture which thinks bullying is acceptable. Anyway, Cat is in America, isn't she? The land of the free and equal opportunity for all.
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I can't think of any culture which thinks bullying is acceptable. Anyway, Cat is in America, isn't she? The land of the free and equal opportunity for all.
I'm not talking about a culture that thinks bullying is okay. Cat is in the US, but the culture varies from region to region.

CG mentioned kids toilet papering a house and then cleaning it up. Where she was living it showed that the "victim" was a member of the group.

Where I grew up, it was just a stupid prank and the house owner was left to do their own cleanup.
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Old 10-09-2013, 10:57 AM   #58
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No, it isn't a joke and shouldn't be viewed as such. If they get away with this what will they try next? Serious damage to the car - scratched paintwork, broken windows - or dangerous "practical jokes" - sugar in the petrol tank, interfering with brakes?

As for "don't get mad, get even". That's downright childish and puts the victim (and "victim" is the correct word) in the same league as the perpetrators. If you can't give sensible advice and sympathy keep your fingers off the keyboard.

The next thing you'll be suggesting is that she should bake them a cake to apologise to them for getting so upset !!!!!
You know, people do have different viewpoints and the right to express them. You seem to be overreacting a bit.

There's no reason to think those kids have any desire to hurt Cat or seriously damage her car. They did something stupid but it's not criminal.

I think cultural differences do have a lot to do with this. Cat is much more serious than many Americans her age. I think Cooking Goddess made some good points.
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Sadly, she died. I will bury her under the cedar bush where she liked to nap. RIP, Giselle.
Oh no! I am so sorry. I am thinking of you.

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Geez, all this was just silly string on Joy? When I saw the title I got a tear in my eye thinking "Cat came home from school and found DA had passed on???" Phew, so DA is OK then, right?

Let me give you a different view of this silly string stuff. Sure they might have done it as a prank to be funny or mean - I don't know, I can't read their minds. But when our kids were in high school (1995-1999) it was a big thing to get your yard toilet-papered. Mostly your classmates did it to let you know you were part of their crowd. Our son was always disappointed when the school year came and went and he didn't get TP'd. Well let me tell you, he went to a school that was 25 miles from our home and the only transportation was if we drove. Finally, after 3+ years of football/track/wrestling/mock debate team/etc our yard finally got toilet-papered! The reason it took so long? The kids in his class had to be old enough to get drivers' licenses and pay for the car insurance and gas before they could go 25 miles! Whenever one of the kids from school got TP'd the same kids would show up the next day to clean up. Fun, plus not trouble to the person draped in paper. Heck, they even all got together and did it to the football coach's house at the end of the season.

Maybe your classmates were trying to initiate you. Maybe not. But if there is a next time with them pranking you, if they are around just smile, straighten your shoulders and stand tall, and say "OK, you had your fun. Now come help me clean this up, OK?" If you say it with a strong voice and a firm look in your eye they might help...but they probably won't ever mess with you again.
I did not mean for this posting to scare anyone. DA is just fine but she and my parents are very mad of this.

The classmates did not help to clean it. They just pointed at Joy and laughed and walked away of me. I suppose I did look stupid standing at Joy and crying.

Joy is so special to me. She is my very first new car I have ever had. One only gets a first new car once in the lifetime.

With love,
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