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Old 12-20-2008, 09:34 AM   #1
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Thank You Notes

I was taught to always write a handwritten thank you note for presents and to do so immediately. And yet, I find that even at my age, fewer and fewer people are doing this and they are not teaching this form of ettiquette to their children (my nieces and nephews, for example).

Further, I have gotten e-mail thank yous which (I guess) is better than none for gifts.

But do you think that it is old-fashioned to want to receive a written thank you note for a present that you have sent? Sometimes, I get an in person thank you--which I think can suffice but I still was taught to always write a handwritten note.

Am the only one out there who still does this practise and believes in it?


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Old 12-20-2008, 09:36 AM   #2
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We were taught that if you opened a gift in front of the giver that thank you was enough.

I like the written thanks, but we don't make an issue of it. We will phone or email. The phone call is often more fun than a note would be.

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Old 12-20-2008, 11:35 AM   #3
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Old 12-20-2008, 12:12 PM   #4
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I still send a handwritten thank-you and my children do as well. But I do see the times are changing and e-mail seems to be a way of saying thanks.
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Old 12-20-2008, 12:18 PM   #5
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I think the saying "it is the thought that counts" goes both ways. If someone offers thanks for something either written or verbal or on email or skywriting or whatever I think it all comes from the same place. I do not need a formal piece of paper to see what they are trying to express.
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Old 12-20-2008, 12:19 PM   #6
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I'm more of the verbal thank you type, whether in person or by phone.
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Old 12-20-2008, 12:55 PM   #7
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I have always written thank you notes....almost wrote my hands off when I had my daughter!!

As far as expecting them from others, I am just happy to get a thank you in any form or fashion in this day and age!! My nephews as well is the perfect example, last year for Christmas on a big box of gifts I sent also including gift cards so they may pick out what they want, and for each of their birthdays last year...not even acknowlegment that they received anything, let alone a thank you! I sent stuff again this year, and I guess you can say it will be my last for putting thought and effort if my sister doesn't think to have them use their manners...or even show manners herself, since I heard nothing from her as well!!
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Old 12-20-2008, 01:14 PM   #8
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When I give a gift (any gift) it is because I am saying -- I care about you -- You are important to me -- I love you -- You are Special --- Not because I expect anything in return. A thank you by what ever means is welcomed and appreciated, but not required. Is it polite, and proper manners to thank people? Absolutely!

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Old 12-20-2008, 02:28 PM   #10
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My Ex taught my daughters to write thank you notes and they still do.

I don't...

...but I always thank the gift giver because I want them to know I appreciate their kindness.

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