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Old 03-19-2012, 10:15 AM   #2031
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You can disagree all you like BT. Venting is for venting after all. I also apologized for upsetting anyone. I like all the folks who take the threads off topic too and am sorry for hurting feelings.

Effete shrinking disgust...NICE! No really, THAT would get an A+ on any of my papers. I admire your way with words.

Vent noted. While I'm no longer annoyed, I stand by my statement that "intelligent people" can still be respectful of the OP. There is a place for rambling, and answering a specific question is not that place.

Someday BT, we need to meet in person and have a really good go around about something we can sink our teeth into. Religion? Euthanasia? Can't do much with politics as I don't think either of us know enough about the other's political system. Let's see if we can get our arses tossed out of a pub for yelling.
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Old 03-19-2012, 01:12 PM   #2032
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My dear, caring son & wife have just presented me with a cell phone. Aw, man! I know it makes them feel better to know that I have one, but - do I have to? Yick.
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Old 03-19-2012, 01:35 PM   #2033
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I called the person responsible for hall rentals and reported it. (Sounds logical so far right?) Well instead of saying thanks for the info I'll handle it, I got a blast about people blaming her and telling her what to do about the mess etc etc.
That reminds me of a job I used to have as a quality co-ordinator at a company. When I addressed areas of low quality reports, I was accused of things like finger pointing, even though the opinions I was addressing were not my own.

At least you were able to be cool enough to ask what the backlash was for. I was generally too shocked by the reactions of people to what was me just doing my job that I was tongue tied.

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I'm trying very hard to take the high road and just accept that apology and move on. I'm still TICKED OFF though.
Yeah, tough one. When somebody flies off on one, it is hard to release the negativity we absorb from them. I am having a few problems with that at the moment too. It is the double edged sword of having to calmly deal with repeated outbursts from somebody and/or continued frustrating behaviour from them, and respond every time as if we are hearing this from them for the first time and truely believe they intend to sort it out, and not just appologise., or else if we ever return the negativity we receive it will escalate into an all out bad scene that will be harder to resolve if not impossible. Negativity is such a snowball!
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Old 03-19-2012, 01:40 PM   #2034
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My dear, caring son & wife have just presented me with a cell phone. Aw, man! I know it makes them feel better to know that I have one, but - do I have to? Yick.
Yes. If for no other reason that it will give them piece of mind. My sister resisted also. Until she ended up in a ditch of a freezing cold night. And she wasn't the driver. She couldn't call AAA fast enough. You may not think you need it until you are with someone out shopping with you and they may need help.

My son and I do my grocery shoppiing together. He takes one half of the supermarket and I the other half. When one of us is through, we can call the other with "Where are you now? I am all done. I will meet you at checkout number 7." Sure saves hunting the whole store looking for someone. That store is huge.

I don't keep my phone on all the time. But my kids know when it is on. If I am waiting for them to come pick me up, I turn it on. Sometimes they are running late. If I am sitting outside waiting for them, they let me know and I can go back inside to wait where it is more comfortable.

I also removed all the extras on my land line. No long distance, call waiting, call conference, caller ID or any of the other stuff I never use. As a result, my monthly land line bill is only $17.00 a month whih is mostly taxes. All those extras that I got rid of are free on my cell phone. I keep the landline for 911 calls only.

My daughter and I went to a mall. I was in one store, she another. I left the store I was in and called her to let her know. Sure saved time searching the whole mall looking for me.

And because I am living in elderly housing and on SS, I get my cell phone for free. And I still get all the benefits of folks who are paying $60 or more a month for their cell phone. Well worth putting up with all the "Yucks."
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Old 03-19-2012, 01:49 PM   #2035
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My first ever Rant......Gotta let off steam! My dearest friend invited me to go on a ski holiday at a resort 5 hours away from home. She has free accommodation at her brothers 3.75M vacation home. Her lawyer son and his girlfriend will be joining us. My friend asked me to drive as I have an all wheel drive vehicle. (I like driving that’s not a problem) She and I were concerned that we might be a little crowded with everyone’s bags, skis, boards, boots etc. but her son “pooh poohed” our fears and insisted that it was silly to take two vehicles, so we decided to take the bare essentials and buy food when we are about an hour away from the mountain. (extra crowded for only an hour is doable) Sonny boy wanted to leave Tuesday night after work, he lives 2 + hours away from us which would have us driving in the dark, not that big of a deal, but his mom said “no way we will leave early Wednesday. That was okay by me. I took Wednesday thru Friday off work, and have been working like the devil to meet deadlines that will occur while I am away.
This morning I get an email from my friend saying that “Son” has to do a deposition on Wednesday and doesn’t know what time he can get away……Of course she realizes that I have booked the days off and doesn’t want me to waste a day off waiting for him, so she is making it my decision as to whether we wait or go ahead. I feel like I am “damned if I do and damned if I don’t!! Whew! Now that I have it out I suppose it is trivial........... Thanks for listening
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Old 03-19-2012, 01:56 PM   #2036
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It shouldn't be your decision. He (lawyer) should have made the automatic decision that you all should go on Wednesday morning and he can come when he's available. You could lose a whole day of you wait when he doesn't even know how long he will be.
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Old 03-19-2012, 02:09 PM   #2037
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It shouldn't be your decision. He (lawyer) should have made the automatic decision that you all should go on Wednesday morning and he can come when he's available. You could lose a whole day of you wait when he doesn't even know how long he will be.
As a former legal secretary, he could have pleaded a court day and scheduled the deposition for another day. It happens every day.
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Old 03-19-2012, 02:33 PM   #2038
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Agreed. I'm not talking about those threads. I like those. I just get frustrated about stepping into what I think is going to be a discussion about a particular topic and its morphed off into a debate about something else. I find that a bit disrespectful to the person who has started the thread. I know it irritates me when I ask a question and am looking for specific answers and someone posts something irrelevant that takes the thread into la la land.

Its my own personal feeling, and I realize its petty and not everyone shares my feeling. That's why I posted here in venting. I needed to vent my petty irritation. I also realize I've likely upset a few folks with my comment. I'm sorry for that. I also post in haste occasionally. Forgive me folks, I did not intend to hurt feelings.
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Its making me mental that every thread I try to read wanders randomly all over the place and bears little resemblance to the thread title.
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I agree with you. Once a thread goes off topic it often becomes a private (not really) chat room for a few members. That's when I stop checking the posts on that thread.

I'm also bugged when someone answers a different question from what the OP posted. It doesn't take a lot of effort the read the OP.
I'll admit, I have joined in on some off-topic posts in threads, but I usually try to wait until the matter has been resolved, or I try to answer it at the same time. I do definitely agree though.

Andy, I agree wholeheartedly about the way some OP's questions are responded to. I see this all the time (obviously this is a made up food and not from a real thread):

OP: What is a good way to cook Brundlebum? The only way I will NOT cook it is fried.

Poster #1: Maybe instead of Brundlebum you should try Bottlebum.

Poster #2: You probably aren't frying it right. Here's my recipe for Fried Brundlebum...

Poster #3: Here is a recipe for a dessert that goes great with Brundlebum...

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Old 03-19-2012, 03:28 PM   #2039
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You can disagree all you like BT. Venting is for venting after all. I also apologized for upsetting anyone. I like all the folks who take the threads off topic too and am sorry for hurting feelings.

Effete shrinking disgust...NICE! No really, THAT would get an A+ on any of my papers. I admire your way with words.

Vent noted. While I'm no longer annoyed, I stand by my statement that "intelligent people" can still be respectful of the OP. There is a place for rambling, and answering a specific question is not that place.

Someday BT, we need to meet in person and have a really good go around about something we can sink our teetinto. Religion? Euthanasia? Can't do much with politics as I don't think either of us know enough about the other's political system. Let's see if we can get our arses tossed out of a pub for yelling.
lol, absolutely. can i use groucho marx's line about being thrown out of better places?

i think i understand drunk posting somewhat. i don't drink, but i shouldn't post when i'm bored at work in the middle of the night.

as far as being respectful to the op, what about the people who've taken the subject off topic? they deserve respect as well. so i frequently join in the off topic banter, then post "ok, back on topic..." and then post what the op was discussing. it's simple really, without having to pick bunched panties out of anywhere.
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Old 03-19-2012, 03:34 PM   #2040
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lol, absolutely. can i use groucho marx's line about being thrown out of better places?

i think i understand drunk posting somewhat. i don't drink, but i shouldn't post when i'm bored at work in the middle of the night.

as far as being respectful to the op, what about the people who've taken the subject off topic? they deserve respect as well. so i frequently join in the off topic banter, then post "ok, back on topic..." and then post what the op was discussing. it's simple really, without having to pick bunched panties out of anywhere.
All well and good, but how would YOU cook Brundlebum?
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