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Old 06-18-2015, 06:29 PM   #4271
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What is private and what is public? People have lost their jobs due to things they have posted to Facebook. Now, there is the camp that says it was a private thing to people on their friend's list only. There are others who say what I say, and that the internet is a public sphere and is not private. These are social parameters that are still being worked out. As in, there's no law about them at this time.
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Old 06-18-2015, 07:32 PM   #4272
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Wow, you are tough.
Yes, I see the wink. But can you find a viable argument to the opposite? Even my kids agree with me.

A number of years ago my SIL was found to be in stage 4 for Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma. They gave him four weeks to live. Told him in the next 48 hours to get all his life in order and then come back and check into the hospital. They aggressively attacked his cancer. He was one sick puppy. The hospital set up a bed right beside his for my daughter. They would fall asleep holding hands. A year and a half later he was told that he was in total remission. My daughter took all that time off from work to be at his side. Fortunately, I lived in the downstairs apartment of their home. Their two children still needed to be cared for. I had no objection to taking on that role. When my SIL and daughter came home to stay, I gave it all back to them. That was a medical emergency. I gladly stepped up.

Who would have thought that three years ago I would get the call that this time my daughter was the one with brain cancer.
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Old 06-18-2015, 08:51 PM   #4273
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Carol, prior to the invention of the birth control pill, you could go to prison for even saying the words "birth control." And that included your doctor. You could be fitted for a diaphragm for the sole purpose of preventing the spreading of STD. Condoms were purchased for the same purpose.
Okay I am off my soapbox.
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Addie, I have to admire you, now you are also a medical expert. I cannot abide any advice that is dangerous.
For your information, a diaphragm will NOT prevent STD! It is only a barrier to prevent conception.
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Old 06-18-2015, 09:57 PM   #4274
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What is private and what is public? People have lost their jobs due to things they have posted to Facebook. Now, there is the camp that says it was a private thing to people on their friend's list only. There are others who say what I say, and that the internet is a public sphere and is not private. These are social parameters that are still being worked out. As in, there's no law about them at this time.
I have checked. If I make a post "friends only", it isn't visible. Of course if someone hacks FB, it isn't private and if the government wants to see it and FB lets them, it's visible. But, to the general public, it's private.

Those people who lose jobs over stuff they post to FB were usually "outed" by a "friend". There is nothing stopping someone from taking a screenshot and sending that to the boss. Of course, some people aren't careful of who is on their "friends lists" and some even have their boss on that list.
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Old 06-19-2015, 05:36 AM   #4275
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I have checked. If I make a post "friends only", it isn't visible. Of course if someone hacks FB, it isn't private and if the government wants to see it and FB lets them, it's visible. But, to the general public, it's private.

Those people who lose jobs over stuff they post to FB were usually "outed" by a "friend". There is nothing stopping someone from taking a screenshot and sending that to the boss. Of course, some people aren't careful of who is on their "friends lists" and some even have their boss on that list.
Well, she wasn't too selective about who she posted it to, because a friend of mine, who has only met this woman twice, saw it on Facebook as well.

At any rate, I am the type of person who keeps my Facebook locked tight. I have less than a hundred people on my friends list. I will not have anyone associated with work on my list. I do not have anyone that I go to school with on my list (I'm going back for the third time. I'm just collecting degrees, it seems), because they could very well become future co-workers/bosses. It is not a private space. It's akin of being at a busy party with everyone you know there, standing on the table and shouting something out.

And, if the windows were fixed by the insurance company, what's the problem?

And, she could have been polite about it. She did not have to be rude. But that seems to be her MO. There's been other issues with her, and quite frankly, I'm through.
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Old 06-19-2015, 09:18 AM   #4276
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Not to mention it's a little underhanded to sell a car and not disclose its history (insurance paid for the windows).


If insurance paid to repair/replace the windows, why is it even an issue? I don't think any buyer would care as long as they were repaired properly and worked properly. It's not the same as an accident that involved a bent frame. That should be disclosed.
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Old 06-19-2015, 09:31 AM   #4277
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Addie, I have to admire you, now you are also a medical expert. I cannot abide any advice that is dangerous.
For your information, a diaphragm will NOT prevent STD! It is only a barrier to prevent conception.
And there lies the problem. I know that, the doctor knows that and so do you. The legislature obviously didn't. Don't ask for birth control or you will go to prison. What were they thinking of when our legislature wrote that little gem. It included all methods of birth control. Or what they thought were. Of course there were no women sitting with that august group of men. And the law was still on the books when the pill became available. So you told your doctor that you were having excessive menstrual cycles. The pill could control that problem. Both the patient and the doctor knew it was always a lie no matter what you ask for.

If someone overheard you say the words "birth control" in public they could report you and you would face the possibility of prison. "Birth Control" was right up there with using those four letter words that were considered foul language in public. Dirty, dirty words.
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Old 06-19-2015, 09:34 AM   #4278
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If insurance paid to repair/replace the windows, why is it even an issue? I don't think any buyer would care as long as they were repaired properly and worked properly. It's not the same as an accident that involved a bent frame. That should be disclosed.
Exactly. I don't understand why it was a big deal in the first place. Unless it is for legal reasons. They did apprehend the kid that did it, and charges were made. But if that was the case, why didn't she just say, "hey, for legal reasons I can't talk about it, so I deleted your post." I'm just confused about the whole situation.
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Old 06-19-2015, 09:43 AM   #4279
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Ok. Venting. About two different things.

First. The stove situation. So, two years ago my in-laws bought a new gas range. Their 'old' range was four years old and a beautiful 30", double oven KitchenAid. They asked my husband if we would like it. He, without saying anything to me, told them no, ours worked fine. Says the man who only knows how to cook eggs and homefries.

Well, our range wasn't fine. One of the big burners didn't work, and still doesn't. And, it's only a 24" single oven. I mean, upgrade! But by the time I heard about it, they had already given it to someone else.
Nickee, my mother had an upstairs neighbor whose husband felt that if it was good enough for his mother, then it should be good enough for his wife. Of course his mother was an immigrant that crowded seven kids into a slum apartment and cooked with one hot plate. And that is how Hazel for years fed her family. Finally she smartened up. One pan, one burner and one ingredient. Today, a veggie, tomorrow a piece of meat. After about two weeks of this, he got the message and bought her a second hand stove. And it HAD GAS! She was in heaven. Of course the electric bill went down, but now he had a gas bill to pay each month. And he never let her forget it until the day she filed for divorce.

No, I am not suggesting that you go to that extreme. But I thought you might enjoy the story. Her oldest child had already moved out and the youngest was old enough to understand why she was leaving. Even though they loved their father, they all agreed he was a jerk of the biggest kind. He stayed in their six room apartment alone and she and her remaining children moved into a four room apartment. They were all so happy. Except for him. He never did understand why she left him. As he was wont to tell anyone who would listen.

Eventually she found someone else, remarried and he treated her and the remaining kids like they were royalty. Even paid for two of them to go through college.
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Old 06-19-2015, 09:49 AM   #4280
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Nickee, my mother had an upstairs neighbor whose husband felt that if it was good enough for his mother, then it should be good enough for his wife. Of course his mother was an immigrant that crowded seven kids into a slum apartment and cooked with one hot plate. And that is how Hazel for years fed her family. Finally she smartened up. One pan, one burner and one ingredient. Today, a veggie, tomorrow a piece of meat. After about two weeks of this, he got the message and bought her a second hand stove. And it HAD GAS! She was in heaven. Of course the electric bill went down, but now he had a gas bill to pay each month. And he never let her forget it until the day she filed for divorce.

No, I am not suggesting that you go to that extreme. But I thought you might enjoy the story. Her oldest child had already moved out and the youngest was old enough to understand why she was leaving. Even though they loved their father, they all agreed he was a jerk of the biggest kind. He stayed in their six room apartment alone and she and her remaining children moved into a four room apartment. They were all so happy. Except for him. He never did understand why she left him. As he was wont to tell anyone who would listen.

Eventually she found someone else, remarried and he treated her and the remaining kids like they were royalty. Even paid for two of them to go through college.

Hehe. Definitely won't be going to that extreme. He fixed it yesterday. Something about the igniter was wonky. I don't know the details, I just grabbed my wine and went into the study to "keep the dog out of the way". He gets grumpy when he fixes things. :) He's really not much of a handyman (which is funny 'cos he's an engineer), so it always takes twice as long to do something than it should.
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