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Old 08-20-2015, 02:11 PM   #4321
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That was truly inconsiderate of your relative.

If it were me, I would use a text editor to compose an email (not an email program, where it could accidentally get sent before I was ready). Then I would wait until I was calm and not nearly so angry. I would work on it. I would try to explain about the wasted time and money. Then I would set it aside. I would look it over again later and maybe edit it some more. I have learned not to respond too quickly when I get annoyed/angered/upset. This is obviously a relative that you like well enough to do this for.
Excellent advice Taxi. Nicki there's just no way I could let this go.
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Old 08-20-2015, 02:16 PM   #4322
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Nickee, my first thought is "wow". So much time and effort, and then that. If that had happened to me, I'd drive the two hours, then punch his/her lights out. However, I think taxy has a much better suggestion.

I would try to slip in something towards the end of your message along the lines of "I'll never be able to recover the time I spent planning, but I would really appreciate you reimbursing me the money spent on the perishables". If you end up eating all that food, I'd even be happy for half the money back.
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Old 08-20-2015, 02:28 PM   #4323
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If you ask me to travel two hours to where you live and do a dinner party for you, please give me more than a days notice before you CANCEL ON ME!!!

I'm full of rage. Everything is packed. Hours of work, planning, list making, shopping, money spent, etc. Gone. For nothing.

He's a relative, so there's not much I can do except silently simmer over here.

Do you know the reason for the cancellation? Perhaps it was unavoidable and the relative did the best they could.
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Old 08-20-2015, 02:29 PM   #4324
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Do you know the reason for the cancellation? Perhaps it was unavoidable and the relative did the best they could.
Good point.
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Old 08-20-2015, 02:44 PM   #4325
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Do you know the reason for the cancellation? Perhaps it was unavoidable and the relative did the best they could.
Regardless if there was good reason for canceling, the relative should at least be responsible for the financial cost to Nickee.
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Old 08-20-2015, 03:15 PM   #4326
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Nickee, my first thought is "wow". So much time and effort, and then that. If that had happened to me, I'd drive the two hours, then punch his/her lights out. However, I think taxy has a much better suggestion.

I would try to slip in something towards the end of your message along the lines of "I'll never be able to recover the time I spent planning, but I would really appreciate you reimbursing me the money spent on the perishables". If you end up eating all that food, I'd even be happy for half the money back.
Insert amount here Nickee.
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Old 08-20-2015, 05:06 PM   #4327
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I would let it go.

In the future I would require a nonrefundable deposit on all catering, that would at least cover the cost of the perishables.

If you have a large quantity of food that you cannot use or freeze maybe you could donate it to a local soup kitchen or food pantry and at least get a receipt for a tax deduction.

Don't get discouraged!
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Old 08-21-2015, 03:01 PM   #4328
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Unless that relative had a family emergency that day I would definitely put that relative on my manure list.
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Old 08-26-2015, 04:19 AM   #4329
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Petty vent. I visited Pinterest.com to check out a recipe. It lets you check it out for 15 seconds, then brings up a big box requiring you to register. You're blocked from there on. Those sites are annoying as hell to me. When you get thru and register with FaceBook or some other auto log in, Pinterest floods your email box.
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Old 08-26-2015, 07:30 AM   #4330
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Petty vent. I visited Pinterest.com to check out a recipe. It lets you check it out for 15 seconds, then brings up a big box requiring you to register. You're blocked from there on. Those sites are annoying as hell to me. When you get thru and register with FaceBook or some other auto log in, Pinterest floods your email box.
You can change the settings so they don't send you the notifications.
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