I have been super depressed lately even though some things have been going well. Tomorrow marks 2 months since we lost Dad and I miss him terribly but haven't really been able to grieve...or not knowing how.
On top of that, the bank that he dealt with for probably 50 years and put all his investments in, is being a real pain.
They have messed up accounts, sent me on wild goose chases to get cheques redone to say "The Estate of" and they make a regular chequing account in my Dad's name (no "The Estate of") so when I go to deposit the cheques they tell me I can't because this is a personal account and not an estate account....oh, and they are charging us fees on it as well.
My sister has just filed for probate last week and I get a call from an investment councilor this same bank asking how I am doing and do I want to get things started in managing my money when I get it. I told him in no uncertain terms that a) we will be dealing with OUR bank and while I do have accounts at that bank, I will just be putting some savings there. I told him that I can't process this now and that I would much sooner have my Dad back than his money so I am not going to talk to anyone about it until it is here. He said he would call me in a month and I told him that if I needed his services I will call HIM!
That made me feel a little better and writing it all down here helped too, but I know I need some help to deal with my loss or my depression will keep building.
Tomorrow I have to deal with the Estates Dept. of the bank, the Federal Government on money that is owing to Dad but was locked out of the direct deposit on Dad's account and an insurance company that might still be holding a policy.
Oh, and first thing I get to go to the dentist about my chipped tooth and gum abscess (Addie will be happy with me!
). At least I am getting a hair cut so hopefully that is my reward!
Thanks for listening - this was written with a lot of tears and frustration.
