Originally Posted by Addie
Time for hubby to bring in temporary help. You will start to really feel better once the staples are out. Patience littl grasshopper, patience.
Do you think your daughter is old enough to help out at the cafe one or two days a week after school? It would be a good way for her to see exactly how the both of you work to support your lives. And it won't hurt her to pitch in. You illness right now is a family affair. It will give her a memory she will keep. "I helped out my parents at their cafe when my mother had surgery and couldn't work for a while." A story she can use for when she has kids that don't want to do chores. I am sure you don't want to burden your daughter with your problems. But sometimes we tend to protect them more than they need. Children are very resilient and are only too willing to pitch in when they are needed most. And besides, she is a part of all of this upset in your life right now.
Don't go for that walk alone. Make sure you have someone with you. After I had my gastro surgery, I thought I was well enough for a short walk. I didn't even make it to the end of the driveway. I was on my way to pick up the mail. My neighbor had to come out and help me get back to my home. And it was only about 25 feet.
Sit down tonight with hubby. Even if he falls asleep. Give the two of you some quiet time alone. Let him know how you feel. After all no one is a mind reader. I am sure he is just grateful that you are now on the road to healing and you have the word BENIGN to share.
They give patients six to eight weeks to heal. Did you think you were going to walk out of that OR and go right back to work? It takes time to heal. Both emotionally and physically. You have had a lot to deal with these past weeks. First your find out you have a mass of something that may or may not be cancerous. Then the doctors invade your body with scalpels and all sorts of instruments. They are pushing your innards around and bruising them. Your body rebels with pain. It is telling you to go slow and give yourself time to heal. You are going to be all right. After all you have that wonderful word to hang onto BENIGN!
Thanks again Addie for your kind words. Your wisdom always makes me feel better.
Our cafe is only open until 3:00. Our daughter (14) gets out of school at 3:30. Honestly she is not much for help in the kitchen, getting her hands dirty or touching food is not her thing & is usually more hassle than what it's worth. She is ok to fill s& p's or condiments but that's about the extent of it. She is very smart academically just not much of a "hands on" kind of worker. She works part time at the library & is real knowledgeable with computors.
I believe dh knows how I feel I just get so down on myself. I just hate these restrcictions I'm living with, although I am eternally grateful the mass was benign. Another 3" of snow again today has kept me indoors yet another day.
Thanks again for all of your support.
Hope all is well with you
and your daughter
& your son, spike.