What I seem to be doing lately is having email conversations about Mom. She's 81. Dad died a few years ago, and it's become apparent that she can no longer live alone. She's amenable to going to one sibling to live, and that sibling is willing to have her, but others think she should go directly to assisted living. They all live fairly close together, I'm halfway across the country. I don't feel my input should be primary, but they do want my input. I feel that she should go with this sister and see how it works out. Even if it doesn't, it gives wriggle room for finding the right assisted living place.
I also warned of something none of them seem aware of, and that is the pitfall of becoming financially liable for her long term care, that finances have to be looked at carefully and kept separate. I don't know a lot of details about this and am looking for sources.
Anyone know of any source material on the above? Phone lines, legal aid available to my sister, etc.?