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Old 10-17-2015, 03:01 PM   #24431
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I miss my Mom and Dad every day, too. I guess that's a good thing, since it means I loved spending time with them and doing things together, and now that isn't possible. Although I do still have conversations with them. In my head. Mostly...


To me, "missing" and "grieving" are two completely distinct emotions. I miss my Mom a lot. I miss our kids a lot. I don't grieve for any of them, but I think I can still miss someone I love whether they are living or gone.
I'd sure agree with that CG. I've had my share of "grieving". Grieving goes away after a time but the missing never does.
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Old 10-17-2015, 03:28 PM   #24432
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I'd sure agree with that CG. I've had my share of "grieving". Grieving goes away after a time but the missing never does.
I "third" that motion. I am no longer grieving; however there are moments where I miss my parents very much. For example, my Dad would be so happy that the Toronto Blue Jays are doing well and we would be watching every game together. I have trouble watching it just because I don't have him to share it with.
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Old 10-17-2015, 04:17 PM   #24433
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I miss my Mom and Dad every day, too. I guess that's a good thing, since it means I loved spending time with them and doing things together, and now that isn't possible. Although I do still have conversations with them. In my head. Mostly...

To me, "missing" and "grieving" are two completely distinct emotions. I miss my Mom a lot. I miss our kids a lot. I don't grieve for any of them, but I think I can still miss someone I love whether they are living or gone.
I take your point but, perhaps, missing and grieving are along the same spectrum but separated by degrees of intensity. After all, too miss someone a LOT becomes painful and is surely therefore closer to grieving?
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Old 10-17-2015, 04:30 PM   #24434
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Old 10-17-2015, 04:37 PM   #24435
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I'm making spaghetti sauce and watching college football.

Yesterday was the anniversary of my brother passing away. I miss im a lot.
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Old 10-17-2015, 05:11 PM   #24436
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I take your point but, perhaps, missing and grieving are along the same spectrum but separated by degrees of intensity. After all, too miss someone a LOT becomes painful and is surely therefore closer to grieving?
Maybe a better explanation is grieving is painfully missing the departed every second of every day. When that finally subsides, the grieving is over but the scattered moments of missing are always there. Interesting subject. Both my SousChef and I spent many hours counseling fellow widows/widowers on line. It's how we met.
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Old 10-17-2015, 05:19 PM   #24438
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I see grieving as the pain of losing a loved one. The shock of the loss and its impact on you. Grief would occur at the time of the loss and immediately following.

Missing someone is more of an extended feeling of wanting their presence for interaction.
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I see grieving as the pain of losing a loved one. The shock of the loss and its impact on you. Grief would occur at the time of the loss and immediately following.

Missing someone is more of an extended feeling of wanting their presence for interaction.
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Just woke up from a nice recliner nap a bit ago. Was supposed to go to Tyler's baseball game at 1, but the ball field is flooded so it was cancelled.

This is a free Cinemax and HBO weekend, so I'm browsing through the guide looking for movies to DVR.
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