Originally Posted by Addie
. They found a large mass at the front of her brain. She is only 56 years old. She has two children.
So I sit here and wait. I guess I have to stick around a bit longer. Even it is just to make sure she is all right. I just can't lose another child. It is too hard.
I had a really long talk with my daughter last night. So I thought I would bring you an update about her. She went to see her surgeon. The internal sutures are still coming through her scalp as they melt. It is going to take a long time for that incision to heal.
She had a list of questions to ask him. He was so invasive. The one question she wanted answered was, "What kind of cancer do I have?" She had to get into an argument with him before he stopped ignoring her question. He finally told her. She couldn't pronounce it. So she made him write it down. When she got home she looked it up on the web. She now knows her prognosis. One to two years. Ninety percent of patients with this cancer do not survive. The family knew, but we were uncomfortable telling her. Since they found the cancer is Stage 3, I told her that there is a better chance of her being in the Two Percent that survive. I will grasp at any straw that will give her hope and the will to fight back.
Next week she sees her oncologists. She has more than one. She still has her list of unanswered questions. She did her first week of chemo. They gave her a very strong anti-nausea medications for her to take with the chemo meds. So she got through her first week pretty good. She finds that she needs to still take naps several times a day. I told her, that it normal.
Her attitude is really good. There has been a drastic change in her behavior and attitude since the surgery. My youngest son said this is quite common for the type of brain tumor she has. The pressure has been removed. We have a big Columbus Day parade coming this Sunday. This is a holiday that she has always celebrated with gusto. A house full of company and plenty of food to eat. To watch the parade this year she will be taking a chair with her to watch it. And (I hope) there will be no company sapping what little strength she has. I am going to make a large pan of mac and cheese with tomatoes for her.
The next big item I have to have her address is a will. I doubt I will get an argument on this. Her name along with her husband is on the deed to the house. Who gets her share of the house? And she has a retirement fund that will dispersed to whoever she wants. A lot of questions have to be answered.