Crude jokes, to me, are actually geared to offending someone in the group, and then you can say, "gee, get over it, have a sense of humor". That is to say obscene sexually oriented jokes in front of people you KNOW will take offense. Racially bad stuff in front of people you know will find it offensive.
In other words, if you're idea of humor requires that you offend some one in the group, then you get to say, "gee, you have no sense of humor", well they, you're being offensive, you are doing it on purpose, so don't be surprised.
When you've known people for many years, you can josh about this stuff, when you are among friends and you know each other. But generally, it isn't funny when you're the butt of the joke and everyone is laughing AT you. No matter the subject, it just isn't funny when everyone is laughing at you because you find language offensive, or any other subject matter.