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Old 08-16-2005, 09:32 PM   #1
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Woman of dreams

Im not sure I should even write this. Im 34 single and picky. There is a woman at work that I REALLLLLLLY like. She is 23 and still not jaded towards men. You see when youre 34 woman youre age are already jaded towards men for the most part.
Ok..... now Im Italian and Polish. So is she. I LOVE red hair and freckles. She has both. Plus, we have many many things in common. VERY rare. She likes....... COUNTRY! So do I. She has a warm heart. BUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She is unhappily engaged. To a male stripper! This guy is built and good looking and 25 that makes $42 an hour. I could have been competition 10 years ago. ALas, now Im not. Not physically. But I am better emotionally and I KNOW I am a better man to be in a relationship with. And thats for the long haul. I dont want a one night thing. I want a relationship based on communication, understanding and trust. I want to support her ambitions. I want to take a bad day and make her laugh. I want to give her massage on a bad day. I her and I to travel (on a VERY limited budget) and to explore the world. I want to protect her. I want to supprise her with something to make her smile. I want to make her toes curl. I want to invite her friends over to have a great party and vice versa. I wanna snuggle. I want her to know what a great relationship can be!

But, again...... she is engaged to a man she really dosent want to marry. She is 11 years younger than I. But she makes me laugh! VERY few women do that. And again we have SO much in common.
I work with her. Shes in another department. She works with her "to-be" mother in law! Desk right next to her!!!!!!!! BUT....... she hates her to be, mother in law.

I HAVE to be stealthy!!!!! We communicate via e-mail. And we occasionally flirt via face to face. But I dont know if its really face value. I THINK it is.

Its a diamond in the ruff when I feel like this. When I meet a woman that makes me laugh. When I think about a woman so much.
Heck, I dont know what to do. Someone say, worry about your job? I do, but when it comes to this, job be darned.

I have found a woman that is a diamond on a 1000 acre sand pile. (yes, diddnt want to say ruff)

PLEASE no negative responses. I want answers to the situation. How can I win her heart and still stay under the radar? HELP!

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Old 08-16-2005, 09:36 PM   #2
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i'm not sure about this ds. all i can say is maybe give hints to how you feel and sit back and wait until she calls it off with him. and she will.
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Old 08-16-2005, 09:38 PM   #3
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You need to come right out and have a talk with her and tell her how you are feeling. You need to find out if she has any feeling for you and if there is any chance she will not go through with her engagement. If you don't then you are just setting yourself up for a big fall. Sorry to be so blunt, but I am calling it like I see it. I wish you all the best with this woman DS. I really hope it works out for you!
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Old 08-16-2005, 09:56 PM   #4
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its a REAL balance act. I cant ask her straight forward. It has to be a day to day thing. SLLLLLLLLOWLY. What should I do to win her heart gradually? In a non in your face way?
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Old 08-16-2005, 09:58 PM   #5
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sush just be yourself. that's the best advise i can give you right now
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Old 08-16-2005, 10:09 PM   #6
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okie dokie. I'll find out her favorite candy or something. Awwww heck, I dont know. Well, day by day. I play it the way I see it on a daily basis. I guess its the safest bet. You know..... even if shes not with me.... I just want her to have a happy life with the right man. Thats all.
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Old 08-16-2005, 10:14 PM   #7
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sush just be yourself. that's the best advise i can give you right now
DS, I agree with middie. You are a great guy with an awesome personality. But I also agree with GB. If you don't tell her how she feels and she gets married. Then you may always think of what if I told her that I liked her? Good Luck!!
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Old 08-16-2005, 10:37 PM   #8
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Consider that she may be thinking how much she likes you but is afraid to say anything because you're a little older and probably wouldn't be interested in a younger woman.

If you're serious about her, have a private heart-to-heart talk. Let her know you really like her and would like to pursue a relationship but you know she's engaged and don't know how to proceed. If she says she intends to marry the other guy and she can't see you, you drop it, if she's open to the idea, you're a winner.

Sneaking around to see her/talk to her is just going to put you both in the position of creating problems, mostly for her. If MIL 2B sits next to her, she'll get a clue sooner or later.
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SUSHI, I SAY IF YOU WAN'T HER........TAKE HER I think that's the way things go now nays.
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