Might I suggest that you get a really good basic baking cookbook? You might want to start with anything by Maida Heatter or Nick Malgieri's latest cookbook, "The Home Baker". It sounds to me that you could use some help with the basics of baking. I know it can be frustrating and a waste of time, effort, energy and money when things flop in the kitchen. I would hate to have you get discouraged. I love to bake and find it to be really rewarding, relaxing and a great way to de-stress.
As ever, Pie Susan