Elf, the term "BBQ" to the true aficionado is of course the low/slow smoke cooking... BUT... I've noticed that BBQ is also a common terminology used to denote food cooked with a spicy sauce of some kind. So I don't think it's wrong.
I remember growing up my Mother used to cook "barbecued pork ribs" and she would use about 1 cup of Woody's Cooking Sauce (NOT the barbecue sauce, the *cooking* sauce which is totally different.. and BTW.. it's an excellent flavor enhancer if, "very lightly", brushed on a steak before it's grilled.. or a hamburger even... ) and would add maybe 1 cup of water and toss them in a pressure cooker...
We LOVED them.. and THAT was also BBQ to me!
So, IMHO,, nothing is sacred. True BBQ is a hobby of mine... as it is to Rainee and a few others here I think... but I'm not obsessive on the topic.
I do like to seek clarification of what people mean though.. some say they are going out to "barbecue" some steaks.. and GOD forbid they would take a good rib eye, T-bone, or NY strip steak, or whatever and low/slow smoke cook it for 5 hours
.... they mean they are going to "grill" it hot and fast.
I've never been in love with short ribs 'cause here (Seattle area) in our markets they are priced almost the same as a good steak, well not quite.. and I have no idea why... They never impressed me as a "cut" of meat that would be worth it.. but then again, I've never tried them either.