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Old 05-14-2005, 02:50 PM   #1
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Ethical Dilemma

Remember when I was all excited that I got a raise last weekend? The boss told mw not to tell anyone because not everyone got a raise. It turns out that no one else got a raise, just me. The other three got really crappy insurance. I imagine that I got a raise because the others make more than I do. The boss was gone for a doctor's appointment yesterday so we held an impromptu meeting and everyone was talking about not getting a raise and they were angry and that's an understatement. I said nothing about the fact that I got a raise but I plan to even tho the boss explicitly told me not to. Here's the pertinent facts: Nobody got a raise last year, nothing. We are a Top Ten public course and we get tons of business. The course is making money hand over fist. A couple of the guys were talking about going on strike which won't work, we'd just get fired. The problem is that we're all pretty close friends and I'm not going to keep a secret from them but if I tell them, it might make the situation worse. Any thoughts?

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Old 05-14-2005, 02:57 PM   #2
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Wow that is a horrible situation to be in. Personally though, if it were me I would not say anything. Telling the other employees/friends will not change anything except show your boss that he can't trust you. He obviously thought highly enough about you to give you the one and only raise. He was the one who made the decision, not you. If you do spill the beans then your other co-workers will still not get a raise. The only thing that will change is your boss will now be mad at you.

I know at my company it is a firable (is that a word?) offense to discuss your salary with other employees.

Keep in mind this was not your decision so you should not feel guilty that the other people did not get anything. It might not be fair, but business is almost never fair. I am sure if it were up to you then you would have made a more equitable decision, but you had no say in the matter.
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Old 05-14-2005, 03:00 PM   #3
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If you tell them you might get fired because the boss asked you not to tell.
Could you find out how much the others make and then compare it to what you are being paid? If they make more maybe it's because they have been there longer..
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Old 05-14-2005, 03:01 PM   #4
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You're right. It is a dilemma.

They're your friends so you don't want to lie to them. If you tell them, you have to assume the boss will find out. When he does, his perception of you will change - for the worse. That will, in turn, effect your job and your ability to earn a living.

I don't know your relative job status vs. the others or what your relationship is to the boss. You might consider talking to the boss about it in private. Why you, and not the others? Was your performance much better than theirs? Is he not happy with them and wants them to leave?

The safest advice is to stay out of the middle but that's not always easy to do.
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Old 05-14-2005, 03:15 PM   #5
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Well, it wasn't the boss' decision to give the raise and insurance, it was the owner's decision. We have a great relationship with the boss, in fact, when our mechanic got married last fall, we were all groomsmen and the boss and his family attended the wedding. Although we're not supposed to know how much each other make, we all do anyway because we trust each other. We've all been there since the course opened in 2002. Our mechanic makes more than me simply because he's a great mechanic and the other guy is an EPA certified spray technician. I make less because I don't really have a specialty, I can just do everything else, which is why I think I'm the only one that got a raise. We have four part-timers that got nothing. Like I said, we're a pretty tight knit group, that's why this is killing me!
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Old 05-14-2005, 03:20 PM   #6
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you should not tell anyone about the raise. What you make is yours and your employers business only. If you do tell them and your employer finds out he will most likely fire you, at the least you will have lost his trust. He is the one paying you, not the other employees and he is the one you owe allegiance to. Being a good friend is great but this is not a friendship issue. All you will be doing is stirring up more trouble. If they are unhappy with their wages then they should take it up with thier employer or look for another position.

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Old 05-14-2005, 03:25 PM   #7
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Well, it wasn't the boss' decision to give the raise and insurance, it was the owner's decision. We have a great relationship with the boss, in fact, when our mechanic got married last fall, we were all groomsmen and the boss and his family attended the wedding. Although we're not supposed to know how much each other make, we all do anyway because we trust each other. We've all been there since the course opened in 2002. Our mechanic makes more than me simply because he's a great mechanic and the other guy is an EPA certified spray technician. I make less because I don't really have a specialty, I can just do everything else, which is why I think I'm the only one that got a raise. We have four part-timers that got nothing. Like I said, we're a pretty tight knit group, that's why this is killing me!
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Stay out of it. The others can go to the boss individually and complain. That way they make their point without involving you or others.
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Old 05-14-2005, 03:36 PM   #8
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You're right. I needed a voice of reason and you folks provided it, that's why I love y'all. I'll keep my mouth shut. I don't like it, tho.
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Old 05-14-2005, 04:42 PM   #9
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Congratulations on being the best worker - that's why you got the raise. Learn some non-commital responses to the others and don't spend all of the raise on All-Clad.
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Old 05-14-2005, 04:49 PM   #10
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LOL! Thanks, Otter! I'm not so sure about being the best worker but I appreciate it! All-Clad has to be on hold cuz I need new glasses. I'm going all out on them, too. Rimless glasses with titanium stems and bridge with poly-carb Transitions lenses! Don't ask how much it costs!!!
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