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Old 04-19-2005, 02:20 PM   #1
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After 21 years of marriage, My wife wanted me to take another woman out
to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other
woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has
been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three
children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
"What's wrong, are you well," she asked?
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a
surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.
"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I

"Just the two of us. "
She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that
very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit
When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be
nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had
curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate
her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant
as an angel's.
"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were
impressed," she said, as she got into the car.
"They can't wait to hear about our meeting. "
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and

My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down,
I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print.
Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there

staring at
me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation- -nothing
extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We
talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house
later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me
invite you." I


"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.
"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened
so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.

time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt
from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said:
"I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but
nevertheless, I paid for two plates- one for you and the other for your
wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you,

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time:
and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.

Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time
they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after
you've had a baby ...
somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother,"normal" is history.

Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct ...
somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.

Somebody said being a mother is boring .........
somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's

Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out
somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices ..
somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit
a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.

Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother....
somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.

Somebody said you can't love the fifth child as much as you love the
first.... somebody doesn't have five children.

Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing
questions in the books.....................
somebody never had a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery
somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of
kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military "boot camp."

Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand
tied behind her back ... ..............
somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.

Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets
.somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to
a mother's heartstrings.

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves
somebody never had grandchildren.

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell
somebody isn't a mother.

You may want to pass this along to some of the "moms" in your life.


"Treat everyone with politeness,even those who are rude to you - not because they are nice, but because you are."
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Old 04-19-2005, 02:31 PM   #2
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I've read this somewhere before crewsk - it is a great piece!


"Count yourself...you ain't so many" - quote from Buck's Daddy
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Old 04-19-2005, 02:34 PM   #3
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Yes, do what you can for your mother today......you never know when you will lose her.

I lost my mom, but I was with her til the end. Others may not be so lucky, so enjoy her while you can.

Not only enjoy your mom, but your grandmothers and your aunts.....
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Old 04-20-2005, 06:19 AM   #4
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That was beautiful. Thanks for posting it.
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Old 04-20-2005, 07:32 AM   #5
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Yes, I too was with my mother when she passed from colon cancer. She was only 54. Just because someone is healthy, eats right, doesn't smoke and excersises, doesn't mean that they will have the fortune of living to old age. My sisters and I ALWAYS end our phone conversations or leave from a get together by saying "I love you". My boys are 20 and 18, not a day has gone by that I don't get a kiss on the cheek and a "Goodnight, I love you". After my mother died, we learned that there may not be a tomorrow. Take your family and friends and hug them, tell them your feelings today. Though they know it in their hearts, it is still nice to hear!!!
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Old 04-20-2005, 08:08 AM   #6
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crewsk that was beautiful thank you for posting it. now i have to call my mom, but i know she's not home , so i'll have to wait until she is lol.

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