I've made peace with and adapted to my tiny 1970's harvest gold apartment kitchen. I have 42 inches of usable counter space and two double electrical outlets. One outlet is taken up by the refrigerator and the microwave that sits on top of the refrigerator. The other is available for the occasional use of the hand mixer or the blender. No dishwasher and as of a year ago no garbage disposal.
The key for me is to have a minimum of mixing bowls, gadgets etc... and to clean as I go so that I can reuse things and never have a really large mess to deal with at the end.
I really enjoy using my imagination to solve the small problems that pop up from time to time. I might feel differently if I had to cook every day for a large family. I'm at a point in my life where I only cook things I enjoy and then only when I feel like it.
Repeat after me!!!