Thanks everyone for more inputs!! (inpuuut, inpuuuut... oh no I am not #5, so please don't disassemble me!!
Thanks Bucky for the info about non stick cookware, that is good to know... as you mentioned I would also take care of our wine glasses and cast iron ware personally as well.
Water consumption is also a good point, 7 gallons for 1 whole load is quite amazing!
For a couple of extreme foodies count for much more than average daily consumption of 2 people very often and I am sure, provided the machine is functional, would save me a lot of work. I am a wash as I go kind of person, too, but as my hands are too sensitive for detergents I must use rubber gloves to do the washing, having to putting them on and off while doing other things at the same time complicates the matter a bit more.
I am going to take notes of all the suggestions for our up coming quest for the perfect dishwasher!