Gosh, I don't know, if a friend was coming over to do some carpentry, I am sure he would find my chisels dull, some stuff rusted, and a terrible mishmash of tools he would be horrified at.
But then again I have minimal interest in carpentry and little knowledge of the subject.
Many folks view cooking the same way.
They get by and generally have little interest in doing more. Although they like thier food to be tasty, they have no idea how to create it and are not willing to expend the effort to do so.
Just as I am not eager to learn how to make a China cabinet.
And so the the novice's tools frustrate those who are more adept at the skill.
We do cook, and have to, for family in another state. And we cannot drive there easily and basically have to fly.
What we do is use what implements they have, plan the recipes, buy almost everything we are going to need, and wing the rest, and sometimes buy a new pot or new knife to leave behind.
Just a thought.