OK, this is going to be a weird thread. Just going to warn you of that right up front.
Lately, folks are crabbier than usual. Little things are getting our panties in a bunch and people are flying off the handle about weird things. I'm including myself in this category. I hope all of you who read this take a look at yourself and your recent behaviours. And please don't feel this is specifically targeted at any ONE person. Its really really not. Its an observation about a lot of things.
Typically, this is a busy and stressful time of year for people. So what do we do? We come to the internet to surf and relax. But when we get here we find little things (or sometimes big things) that bug us and we react. Hmmm, perhaps NOT the best idea. The reaction often starts a vicious cycle of things.
Can we all just take a collective deep breath and agree to relax a bit? Don't sweat the small stuff. We have a phrase we use at work, MBA. That means Minor But Annoying. There are plenty of those posts flying around here from time to time. Posts that are seemingly random, or posts that are blatantly immature and foolish, but are really in the grand scheme of things, harmless. Can we just let that go a bit? If you really can't let them go, then can you deal with them appropriately? Gently telling someone in a PM might work. Might not, but hey, its a good first step and a whole lot nicer than a rant.
We are a community of vastly different ages, cultural backgrounds, languages and other things. Don't expect everyone to think as you do, and be TOLERANT of differences. Folks are not saying "you are wrong" most of the time. More likely they are saying "this works for me". It just might not come across that way. If you feel like someone is being disrespectful to you there is a very polite and gentle way to find out. Use "I" messages. Try saying, "I read your post this way, is that what you meant?" or, "I felt _______ when I read your post. Did you mean ______ or did I read it wrong?"
I hope no one takes offence to this. Its just a little observation and suggestion. I hope that if you've read this you will continue on and take a deep breath or two as the days go by.
And so, from me to all of you, Peace be with you.
Lately, folks are crabbier than usual. Little things are getting our panties in a bunch and people are flying off the handle about weird things. I'm including myself in this category. I hope all of you who read this take a look at yourself and your recent behaviours. And please don't feel this is specifically targeted at any ONE person. Its really really not. Its an observation about a lot of things.
Typically, this is a busy and stressful time of year for people. So what do we do? We come to the internet to surf and relax. But when we get here we find little things (or sometimes big things) that bug us and we react. Hmmm, perhaps NOT the best idea. The reaction often starts a vicious cycle of things.
Can we all just take a collective deep breath and agree to relax a bit? Don't sweat the small stuff. We have a phrase we use at work, MBA. That means Minor But Annoying. There are plenty of those posts flying around here from time to time. Posts that are seemingly random, or posts that are blatantly immature and foolish, but are really in the grand scheme of things, harmless. Can we just let that go a bit? If you really can't let them go, then can you deal with them appropriately? Gently telling someone in a PM might work. Might not, but hey, its a good first step and a whole lot nicer than a rant.
We are a community of vastly different ages, cultural backgrounds, languages and other things. Don't expect everyone to think as you do, and be TOLERANT of differences. Folks are not saying "you are wrong" most of the time. More likely they are saying "this works for me". It just might not come across that way. If you feel like someone is being disrespectful to you there is a very polite and gentle way to find out. Use "I" messages. Try saying, "I read your post this way, is that what you meant?" or, "I felt _______ when I read your post. Did you mean ______ or did I read it wrong?"
I hope no one takes offence to this. Its just a little observation and suggestion. I hope that if you've read this you will continue on and take a deep breath or two as the days go by.
And so, from me to all of you, Peace be with you.
