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IMHO that's not family; that's leaches. I'd try to stay as far away from them as possible. The sad part is that we are supposed to love and forgive everyone. Sometimes, it's hard. But nowhere is it said that we have to hang out with them.

Seeeeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North

Fer sure. Haven't had a thing to do with them since my dad died 4 years ago. I had very little to do with them for over 25 years before that.

The entire time I was caring for my dad - in my home - not one of them could be bothered to call. They just bitched that he didn't call THEM - seriously, who's responsible for keeping in touch, 40/50/60 year old children - or the nearly 90 year old guy with Alzheimer's? LOL!

I had standing orders from my dad to tell certain people he was asleep when they called, but I never had to, because THEY NEVER CALLED!

No worries. My son is my family. I have POAs and living will and whatnot all in place so if ever anything happens to me they won't get a foot in the door. Plus, he won't tell them anything anyway, LOL!
 
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I have hosted every Thanksgiving, Easter and Christmas since my MIL passed away 8 years ago. I think everyone is just so happy to have somewhere to go and not have to host. I have dropped hints to the younger generation and hope someone will give me this Thanksgiving off. I even offered to buy and cook the turkey if someone else will host and do the sides and dessert. What more can they ask?
 
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I haven't done bird day for over 25 years, since the last time, 3 days after giving birth to my son, when the horde descended, did not offer to help, but felt free to sit around and criticize the entire meal. I did do a bird day for my dad a couple of years before he died. The others were invited but cancelled at the last minute. Apparently they were ticked off that, acquiescing to my father's wishes, I made a ham instead of a turkey......
Sounds like the leaches didn't know they were coming over for Thanksgiving...sounds like they wouldn't know what to be thankful for if it hit them in the head.

FAMILY is happy to get together and would be happy with an assortment of five kinds of cereal. RELATIVES are the kind of people who did ^that^ to you. It's a blessing when you are actually related to your family, but if you have true friends with nowhere else to go have them come over for the day, each bringing something for the table.
 
It was Christmas and I was two weeks past due with my fourth child. I had a houseful of company and I was out in the kitchen putting the dinner together. Right off the bedroom was a spare bedroom. I let out a yell for my sister to come help me and I just made it to the bed. She delivered my second son. My sister told my company that there would be a slight delay in dinner. I just had a boy. No one believed her. One of my guests passed out when he came into the room and saw this tiny bundle wrapped in newspaper. An hour later after the doctor left I was back out in the kitchen finishing the last touches on the dinner. I let them all sit down and I went to sleep. :angel:
 
If they'd had to wait for my delivery to be over, dinner would have been QUITE late - I was in labor for 36 hours, LOL! I needed a couple days to recover! I'm sure they STILL would have complained.

So true, there is family - and then there are relatives. If they coincide, count yourself lucky, LOL!
 
I was on the bus with a bunch of friends when I told this story. My girlfriend just made the remark, "Put another plate on the table, another guest just arrived." This set us all into such gales of raucous laughter, that the bus driver threw us all off. The dinner was a success though. Everyone was full by the time they left. And there were no leftovers, which ticked me off. I really didn't feel like cooking the next day. So I made a big pot of turkey noodle soup that lasted for a couple of days. :angel:
 
I think the story is that capons are older and therefore have a richer chicken flavor than the young birds we normally get when we buy chicken. i haven't tested that theory. I'd guess a capon would be tougher.
If your capon is the same as ours it's a castrated (male) chicken (no, I don't know how you castrate a chicken:chef:) They are castrated to make them grow bigger faster. There was a fuss about 30 years ago over here about capons being chemically castrated (probably with oestrogen in the feed - I can't quite remember) and being dangerous to humans (human men in particular!) but I don't know if there was any truth in that.
 
I haven't done bird day for over 25 years, since the last time, 3 days after giving birth to my son, when the horde descended, did not offer to help, but felt free to sit around and criticize the entire meal. I did do a bird day for my dad a couple of years before he died. The others were invited but cancelled at the last minute. Apparently they were ticked off that, acquiescing to my father's wishes, I made a ham instead of a turkey. So rather than one of them offering to bring a bird, they just got pissy and cancelled at the last minute for made-up reasons - but spread the word far and wide that the REAL reason was me "taking over" bird day, LOL! Like any of them had done a single holiday meal for the whole family since I quit doing them, or offered to do it that year, or even to bring something!

I figure he who pays, says. Also the 87 year old guy gets first choice. I don't care what it is - even if it's brats and hot dogs. He only had one or two bird days after that. And actually *I* paid for the whole thing (which they didn't even show up for) as they had bled him dry for the month already and he didn't even have grocery money. No one offered to so much as bring a couple cans of corn. And they STILL complained because when they showed up to take leftovers home, over the next few days, I hadn't made a pumpkin pie, just apple pie and chocolate chip cookies, LOL! How thoughtless and self-centered can you get? My dad didn't like pumpkin pie, hadn't asked for it, they didn't even show up for the day despite saying they would, and then they had the colossal gall to complain about the leftovers, ROFLMAO!
How rude!. I wouldn't dream of even asking what my hosts were intending to serve. And even if I hated it I would (wo)manfully plough through it and smile.

And showing up to get left-overs when they didn't call on the day - well, I'm gob-smacked (to use a rather vulgar English expression;))!
 
How rude!. I wouldn't dream of even asking what my hosts were intending to serve. And even if I hated it I would (wo)manfully plough through it and smile.

And showing up to get left-overs when they didn't call on the day - well, I'm gob-smacked (to use a rather vulgar English expression;))!
I was gob-smacked as well.

I didn't realize that expression was vulgar. Most of the Brits I know aren't very classy. But, now that you mention it, the few classy Brits I know don't use that expression.
 
I was gob-smacked as well.

I didn't realize that expression was vulgar. Most of the Brits I know aren't very classy. But, now that you mention it, the few classy Brits I know don't use that expression.
Not really very vulgar. There are worse expressions but, of course, respectable spinsters like me wouldn't know them :rolleyes:

It's slang really, not rude as such.
 
So, less crude than say, "bugger"?

Maybe we should start a thread on international rude words and phrases. Some terms used by other locations may not be understood to be rude to the person reading them. Bloody, for instance, is one such word in England, along with bugger. In the U.S. these words don't carry the same connotations as in the British Isles. And I'm sure that there are colloquialisms in every location that would seem rude, or even vulgar to others.

Vulgarities are often used frequently in some circles, and considered a simple part of the language. I don't use them by choice. I haven't for almost 40 years now. And so, I would just as soon not use words or phrases that may be considered vulgar, or irreverent to Deity in other locations either.

But that's just me.

Seeeeeeya; Chief Longwind of the North
 
Wow! I was just reading an article from The Wall Street Journal about the convergence of Thanksgiving and Hanukkah. I reckon, seein' as how this won't happen again for some 77,000 odd years or so, if I can create some fusion recipes for our Thanksgiving table.
Now, I just want to say that I have many friends who are of the Jewish faith, and I have a great admiration and respect for Jewish tradition and the accompanying procedures they follow in the preparation of food. I really enjoyed the times that I have been invited to dine with these friends.
I think I am going to seek the advice of a few of my friends to see if, in fact, I can come up with something special, in view of this rare occurrence.
I will say that I was somewhat dismayed by the tone of the article particularly in respect to the commercialism discussed. I reckon there ain't no escaping the almighty dollar, no matter what the occasion.

Note: As always, I defer to the judgement of our moderators, and if this post is over the line regarding religious discussions, I will abide by their wisdom, without further discussion.
 
I grew up in a home where some very colorful language was used.

When I got out into the business world I tried to train myself not to use many of those words because they tend to POP out during moments of stress and frustration.

Now that I am old I find myself returning to a more colorful style of speaking! :ermm::ohmy::LOL:
 
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