A few years back, I was eating a lot of salty foods. My BP went up to just over 160. I cut back to a more normal level of salt and my BP went back to my normal healthy level.
Adventures With Mom
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LOL, Andy, taste is extremely subjective. Yay! I'm in your group too!
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Kaneohegirlinaz
Wannabe TV Chef
Ya Know Mom's Sick When ...
... she goes off her feed bag
No but seriously, Mom has not wanted to eat, anything
She had been eating everything and anything that I've put
down in front of her at the table, but since coming down
with a really bad case of Allergies that has now gone down
into her chest, she says she has no appetite.
I got her to start taking an expectorant to help
get rid of that congestion, she's says that she's taking too
many meds and its making her tummy "unhappy".
I asked her to expand on that more ... is it upset, are
you nauseated, what?
She couldn't come up with a better description than that.
I'm thinkin' it's all that junk from her nose and chest
going into her tummy and making it un-easy.
I'll give her a coupla more days before I say that
we're going back to Urgent Care.
Upper respiratory issues in elders can turn south
... she goes off her feed bag
No but seriously, Mom has not wanted to eat, anything
She had been eating everything and anything that I've put
down in front of her at the table, but since coming down
with a really bad case of Allergies that has now gone down
into her chest, she says she has no appetite.
I got her to start taking an expectorant to help
get rid of that congestion, she's says that she's taking too
many meds and its making her tummy "unhappy".
I asked her to expand on that more ... is it upset, are
you nauseated, what?
She couldn't come up with a better description than that.
I'm thinkin' it's all that junk from her nose and chest
going into her tummy and making it un-easy.
I'll give her a coupla more days before I say that
we're going back to Urgent Care.
Upper respiratory issues in elders can turn south
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Kaneohegirlinaz
Wannabe TV Chef
Gillian, I am a totally self-taught home cook.
I wanted to make my own food from an extremely
young age, mainly because my Mother's
food was horrid!
Once I could reach the stove without
the aid of a stool or chair, I was allowed to cook,
and I've never stopped learning.
GinnyPNW
Master Chef
Gillian, I am a totally self-taught home cook.
I wanted to make my own food from an extremely
young age, mainly because my Mother's
food was horrid!
Once I could reach the stove without
the aid of a stool or chair, I was allowed to cook,
and I've never stopped learning.
Ditto here! I asked for a cookbook for Christmas, when I was only 10 years old. Oh...I probably should give Mrs. Horowitz some credit too. She was my 7th Grade Home Ec teacher for the cooking class. I still make some of the recipes she gave us. Spaghetti sauce, Deluxe Whipped Jello, some that aren't coming to mind at this moment. But, never, ever the Tuna Noodle Casserole. Bleh!
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Kaneohegirlinaz
Wannabe TV Chef
Uuh!
Tuna Casserole ...
https://mykitcheninthemiddleofthede...08/10/tuna-not-like-the-lunch-hall-casserole/
Try that one on for size, it's nothing like what we had in school Ginny!
GinnyPNW
Master Chef
Thanks, K-Girl. I will consider it...it is a memory that just never went away!?
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Kaneohegirlinaz
Wannabe TV Chef
Sometimes Mom Cracks Us Up
My DH has this habit of leaving the house wearing his
house slippers ...
I needed to make a run to the local Post Office to pick
up packages that had been delivered.
I asked Mom if she'd like to go for just a quick ride,
nothing special, in and out.
We got into the car and she realized that she had
done the same thing as DH!
Mom said, "Well, at least my feet will be warm
and no one will see me anyways! Unlike your
husband who went into the bank wearing his
house slippers."
My DH has this habit of leaving the house wearing his
house slippers ...
I needed to make a run to the local Post Office to pick
up packages that had been delivered.
I asked Mom if she'd like to go for just a quick ride,
nothing special, in and out.
We got into the car and she realized that she had
done the same thing as DH!
Mom said, "Well, at least my feet will be warm
and no one will see me anyways! Unlike your
husband who went into the bank wearing his
house slippers."
GinnyPNW
Master Chef
I used to do the same thing! I would get to the market and notice my feet and ask DH, "why didn't you say something?" His reply: "You're always wearing those!" Sigh. So, now I have a pair of Merrill mules that are my "house shoes." If I should happen to go out in them, no one will think anything, as they are really shoes. That's how I solved my forgetfulness! YMMV
My Grandma used to take me to school in her house dress over a nightgown, her hair in curlers and scarf wearing her slippers. When she picked me up she was dressed to the nines, looking like a model.
Andy M.
Certified Pretend Chef
I wear these slippers around the house and have often thought I could wear them out in a pinch.
GinnyPNW
Master Chef
Agreed. Perfectly passable.
GinnyPNW
Master Chef
Precious memories! Love it!
LOL... too funny! Happened to me just yesterday! Had to take my son to the airport at 5 AM 
When I got home I started to change back to house shoes and realized I was now putting on my outside shoes!
When I got home I started to change back to house shoes and realized I was now putting on my outside shoes!
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Kaneohegirlinaz
Wannabe TV Chef
Dealing With Depression
... let's talk about that.
It's kind of a touchy subject, I mean we all get the down and out blues
from time to time, but I'm talking about the spells that linger for days
and consume you.
I realized long ago, when I was a small child, that my Mother had
shall we say issues. She would go into cry jags for hours, hanging
on to me, balling her eyes out, babbling nonsensically about what
I had no idea.
Over the years, I've learned her trigger points:
My Father, who passed away some years ago (he was a schmuck!)
My Sister (also a schmuck!), who lived only a two hour car ride from her home in California,
but didn't come to visit, doesn't call her, she only communicates through Facebook, and I'm not talking about a PM or any of that
AND lastly, any holiday!
Her birthday
My Father's birthday
Thanksgiving
Christmas
I'll stop now, you get the picture.
My defense mechanism is to ignore what's going on,
keep chattering away as I usually do, and avoid eye contact!
When we lived in Hawaii all together,
Mom had horrible mood swings and both DH and I
felt like there was this black cloud that would
creep up over our house when ever Mom "got into a funk".
Then we all moved to Arizona and Mom got her own
apartment 12 miles down the road from us, PHEW!
Fast forward a number of years, and here we are again.
Mom has a new patient appointment with a new PCP,
and don't you know that I'll be asking for a private
appointment, as PrincessFiona60 had suggested.
Both DH and I feel that Mom could benefit from
drugs! I hate to say this, but there it is, that
elephant in the room. I truly don't think at this point
in Mom's life that therapy would help her, that ship sailed
long ago!
We deal with the cards we're dealt.
... let's talk about that.
It's kind of a touchy subject, I mean we all get the down and out blues
from time to time, but I'm talking about the spells that linger for days
and consume you.
I realized long ago, when I was a small child, that my Mother had
shall we say issues. She would go into cry jags for hours, hanging
on to me, balling her eyes out, babbling nonsensically about what
I had no idea.
Over the years, I've learned her trigger points:
My Father, who passed away some years ago (he was a schmuck!)
My Sister (also a schmuck!), who lived only a two hour car ride from her home in California,
but didn't come to visit, doesn't call her, she only communicates through Facebook, and I'm not talking about a PM or any of that
AND lastly, any holiday!
Her birthday
My Father's birthday
Thanksgiving
Christmas
I'll stop now, you get the picture.
My defense mechanism is to ignore what's going on,
keep chattering away as I usually do, and avoid eye contact!
When we lived in Hawaii all together,
Mom had horrible mood swings and both DH and I
felt like there was this black cloud that would
creep up over our house when ever Mom "got into a funk".
Then we all moved to Arizona and Mom got her own
apartment 12 miles down the road from us, PHEW!
Fast forward a number of years, and here we are again.
Mom has a new patient appointment with a new PCP,
and don't you know that I'll be asking for a private
appointment, as PrincessFiona60 had suggested.
Both DH and I feel that Mom could benefit from
drugs! I hate to say this, but there it is, that
elephant in the room. I truly don't think at this point
in Mom's life that therapy would help her, that ship sailed
long ago!
We deal with the cards we're dealt.
Just Cooking
Master Chef
I hope that I can say this correctly.
My health is starting to deteriorate again, after the remarkable cardioversion procedure I had in October. Things were great but the afib seems to be making a strong comeback.
Now. My reason for mentioning this, in the wrong thread is that this thread has me thinking of my own experiences with older family members and my present situation with my family members.
My mother spent the last 7 years of her life with my first wife and me. Altho there were a few amusing incidences, our lives together were pretty serene and enjoyable. My mother and wife adored each other. We never had any problems.
A few years after my mother passed, my wife came down with cancer. I kept her in our home through her entire ordeal. Our children were with her constantly, until her death. We never had any problems.
I am near the end of my time. I understand and don't whine about the realities of life and death.
My one concern is giving Jeannie and my daughter any difficulties as my time comes closer.
I, truly hope that at my end, my wife, child and all family do not have to sit and think of me being difficult in my final period of living.
Ross
My health is starting to deteriorate again, after the remarkable cardioversion procedure I had in October. Things were great but the afib seems to be making a strong comeback.
Now. My reason for mentioning this, in the wrong thread is that this thread has me thinking of my own experiences with older family members and my present situation with my family members.
My mother spent the last 7 years of her life with my first wife and me. Altho there were a few amusing incidences, our lives together were pretty serene and enjoyable. My mother and wife adored each other. We never had any problems.
A few years after my mother passed, my wife came down with cancer. I kept her in our home through her entire ordeal. Our children were with her constantly, until her death. We never had any problems.
I am near the end of my time. I understand and don't whine about the realities of life and death.
My one concern is giving Jeannie and my daughter any difficulties as my time comes closer.
I, truly hope that at my end, my wife, child and all family do not have to sit and think of me being difficult in my final period of living.
Ross
GotGarlic
Chef Extraordinaire
I have been dependent on medicines to live a somewhat normal life since I was 16 years old, more than 40 years ago. I honestly don't understand why people have an issue with taking "drugs" when they're necessary for physical or mental health. Biochemistry is very complex and scientists are learning more every year about the connections between the body and the mind.
Also, therapy may be exactly what your mother needs. She is experiencing several big life changes in a short amount of time - more than you and your husband are, since she moved to a new place - but she doesn't have anyone to talk to about her frustrations and adjustments. You do. I encourage you to bring that up, too, when you talk to her doctor, because a therapist can help her develop better coping skills and make life easier for all of you.
Also, therapy may be exactly what your mother needs. She is experiencing several big life changes in a short amount of time - more than you and your husband are, since she moved to a new place - but she doesn't have anyone to talk to about her frustrations and adjustments. You do. I encourage you to bring that up, too, when you talk to her doctor, because a therapist can help her develop better coping skills and make life easier for all of you.
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Andy M.
Certified Pretend Chef
I agree with GG. Without drugs, you all would never have met me (sorry). They've kept me alive and in very good health for decades. I don't understand many folks' aversion to taking medications.
GinnyPNW
Master Chef
My MIL lost her DH in 2005 and her first born son in 2007. She's been on Fluoxetine (Prozac) since she lost my FIL. It helps her. And, bonus! They have recently announced that Fluoxetine is a very decent anti-viral...helping to fight off harmful virus, COVID-19 included!
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Kaneohegirlinaz
Wannabe TV Chef
A Question To The Group
Well, like I said all, Mom has her first appointment coming up;
I went on her patient portal and requested that they fax to
her previous PCP back in California, I'm hoping that there will
be some notations as to her demeaner.
A question to the group:
As an elder (I think it's 80 and older) when you have your
annual Medicare Wellness Check up, doesn't your PCP
ask you a battery of questions that are meant to determine
your mental capabilities?
Would the previous PCP have made notes to that affect?
Well, like I said all, Mom has her first appointment coming up;
I went on her patient portal and requested that they fax to
her previous PCP back in California, I'm hoping that there will
be some notations as to her demeaner.
A question to the group:
As an elder (I think it's 80 and older) when you have your
annual Medicare Wellness Check up, doesn't your PCP
ask you a battery of questions that are meant to determine
your mental capabilities?
Would the previous PCP have made notes to that affect?
