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Old 10-05-2018, 09:47 AM   #1
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The last days of my mother's life have made me very sad. Today, when Pete, my OH, took Lucas our dog, it was particulaly bad. Before, when he took Lucas for his morning walk, I would phone my mother to see how she was, and now she isn't there any more, but I went over the UK to say goodbye, and she asked me to comb her hair because she thought she was a mess. I used to phone her every day to see how she was.

Her loss is hitting our whole family, and that's what happens to every family, but that's what happens to every family when you lose someone you love.



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Old 10-05-2018, 09:54 AM   #2
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Di, so sorry for your loss.
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Di, I am so sorry for your loss. I have lost both of my parents and maybe it happens in all families, but right now the only one that matters is yours. Big hugs and just be there for each other for as long as it takes.
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Old 10-05-2018, 11:45 AM   #4
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Sorry for your loss, Di. Remember that she will always be with you in your heart.
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Old 10-05-2018, 12:30 PM   #5
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I'm sorry for your loss, di.
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Old 10-05-2018, 12:41 PM   #6
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The last days of my mother's life have made me very sad. Today, when Pete, my OH, took Lucas our dog, it was particulaly bad. Before, when he took Lucas for his morning walk, I would phone my mother to see how she was, and now she isn't there any more, but I went over the UK to say goodbye, and she asked me to comb her hair because she thought she was a mess. I used to phone her every day to see how she was.

Her loss is hitting our whole family, and that's what happens to every family, but that's what happens to every family when you lose someone you love.



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So sorry to hear this, Di. Thoughts and prayers go with you.
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Old 10-05-2018, 12:45 PM   #7
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I'm very sorry Di.

It's always heartbreaking to loose the first person who ever loved you.
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Old 10-05-2018, 12:51 PM   #8
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Sorry for your loss. I know how you feel. My father just passed away 2 weeks ago. So I am right with you. My condolences.
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(((Hugs Di))) I'm sad to read this. I offer my sincere condolences.
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Old 10-05-2018, 01:10 PM   #10
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I am truly sorry for your loss.

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So sorry, di.
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Old 10-05-2018, 01:50 PM   #12
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My heartfelt condolences, di.
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Old 10-05-2018, 05:34 PM   #14
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My condolences, Di... Be strong..



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Di, I am sorry for your loss.
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Old 10-05-2018, 06:56 PM   #16
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Old 10-05-2018, 07:03 PM   #17
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Please accept my deepest condolences. I lost my mom over three years ago, and the grief is still there. Take comfort in the memories, and know that love remains.
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Old 10-05-2018, 07:47 PM   #18
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Deepest condolences for your loss, Di.
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Old 11-02-2018, 07:53 PM   #19
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Thank you all for your best wishes, both from those expressed and those whose thoughts also mattered.

She had to have a postmorten because of one or two anomalies cencerning her death, so the funeral had to be put back a couple of days. The whole family - and I mean every single member of our family - were there, and the Vicar - would it be the Pastor? in America? - anyway, as, when I lived in England I attended the Sunday service every week, and I was given the honour of being an usher, and I did that for my Mom as well. I made sure that the attendents were given a good welcome, to make them know that they were all part of both the close family and all the other attendants who also came to pay their respects. I did it because I knew every single person by name, and I knew I could give them a good welcome, as my Ma would have liked. I tell you this in humility and for no other reason.

At the back of my mind, in this sad part of my life, I have to tell you that all your well wishes and thoughts have been helped me greatly along the way.

I thank you for your kindness, and for being so caring.

I'm going to come back soon, and I look forward to that - as they say, 'blessed be the day', my friends.

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