The Z
Head Chef
I haven't been around much but have just read your thread. I'm sorry about her complaint, and I don't think it will be founded, but it can still be bad for your reputation. I wish you could have been more patient and that you could have found a way to truly be her friend first.
I hope all goes well with your job and, right now, that has to come first. The fact that she has made a complaint against you should serve as a pretty clear indicator that she's not interested with you in the way that you would wish.
Let her go (for now). When you see her, apologize (but be brief)... something like: "I apologize. I really didn't mean anything beyond our friendship". Leave it at that and deal with whatever you need to with your employer. If everything works out THERE, you might (or might not) wish to resume building a relationship with her. But be her FRIEND and do NOT move as quickly as some of the hopeless romantics (sorry, folks) have advised here.
Friendship is more important than 'excitement/passion' if you really want a relationship with this person. Often relationships start with passion and they need to FIND friendship but, if it's going to last, it's the most important element.
I hope all goes well with your job and, right now, that has to come first. The fact that she has made a complaint against you should serve as a pretty clear indicator that she's not interested with you in the way that you would wish.
Let her go (for now). When you see her, apologize (but be brief)... something like: "I apologize. I really didn't mean anything beyond our friendship". Leave it at that and deal with whatever you need to with your employer. If everything works out THERE, you might (or might not) wish to resume building a relationship with her. But be her FRIEND and do NOT move as quickly as some of the hopeless romantics (sorry, folks) have advised here.
Friendship is more important than 'excitement/passion' if you really want a relationship with this person. Often relationships start with passion and they need to FIND friendship but, if it's going to last, it's the most important element.