I just want to tell you my experience. When I was in the dating/looking world, I wanted exactly what you are saying (except, of course, a gentleman). I was getting SO frustrated by dating my share of jerks or not dating at all. So I decided I would just quit looking and focus on myself. I decided I had to treat myself w/respect before I could expect that from anyone else. I also decided that any man that came into my life could be my friend. And that's it. I wasn't looking for Mr. Right anymore. I learned to enjoy my life and my own company. Then and 6 months later I met a really cute guy who played keyboards in a band at bars in Dallas on the weekends. He became a dear friend and now, 22 years later we've been married for 20 years and he's still my best friend. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I quit looking and the miracle came to me. Try to enjoy your life the way it is and other people will see that joy, regardless of what you have or don't have, and be attracted to it. Take it from someone who's been there. Don't despair, where there is life there is hope. Big Hugs!!
Katy