R_B, People who are like you and me are not understood by people who are not. I will not allow anyone to load my dishwasher. They put stuff in the wrong places!
I tell people I'm a little CDO (that's like OCD but the letters are in alphabetical order, as they should be!)
Funny you mention that. After dinner within no time our daughters had the kitchen completely cleaned up to my wife's delight. It wasn't until morning she told me the dishwasher was over filled and everything was in the wrong place. She had to correct the issues. Some items that do not go in the dishwasher were in there to.
But they did clean up and that gets my attention in a good way.
Not on the level of the previous posts, but if you want to make me angry, ignore my request to STAY OUT OF THE KITCHEN! I hate trying to avoid wandering people while I am mixing, carrying hot items, and just trying to move around my kitchen.
What is so hard to understand about GO SIT DOWN, AND STAY OUT OF THE KITCHEN!
There are several tasks in the kitchen where I ask and appreciate help. The biggest thing is I like to clean up as I go. Nothing worse than a sink piled high with dishes after dinner or even after I'm done with the preparation. So keeping the sink clear is a great help to me. In fact as dishes start to pile up, I can feel a sense of dread and a bit aggravated. So yes. Do dishes as they become apparent. I like that. I do my level best to keep dishes and utensils to a minimum when cooking. But as you guys know, you can't work without tools.
But when it comes to the act of cooking, I don't want or need any assistance. Besides our kitchen is open to the living room and people naturally congregate to the kitchen. So people are present.
Your daughter was serving the cheesecake family style.
I cut cheesecake, and a few other things, cleaning the knife after each cut, but I would never mention it if someone chooses to do it differently.
I guess thats why its a pet peeve. I cannot refrain from mentioning it. Now at her house I would have debated with myself to mention it. I probably still would.
I usually let my wife. load the dish washer. Im the mess maker, and she is the mess cleaning. I hate when she throws dirty dishes in the sink, doesnt bother to either rinse them or at the very least fill with some water. to the crap doesnt get stuck on. Then, complain the next day how. the dishwasher doesnt do a good job cause crap is stuck to the bottom of the pot. She'll also, after a late night snack, throw the plate along with the napkin in the sink ( the garbage can is directly under the sink, why not just throw it away instead of it getting all wet and gross). Im just getting started,. Im sure Ill chime in a few more times. Oh wait, one more came to mind. For decades. ( literally like 70 years) Ive been telling my mom, once you get the produce, make sure to. take them out of those plastic bags before putting them in the fridge or they will get slimy and rot. To this day, it is remarkable how much gross, slimy rotten produce is in her fridge produce drawer.
When someone ( my wife) puts something in the oven for the exact time listed in the recipe, sets the timer and then walks away (never checking on it until the time goes off) and finds it to be over cooker or burnt when the timer goes off. Then, does the same thing the next time she makes something (even the same recipe and wonders again why it is burnt after being told she should check it the last 5 minutes or so to avoid this from happening again.
I understand she doesnt enjoy cooking, and its my thing not hers. I also understand following a recipe exactly, especially when you're not the greatest cook or dont have cooking know how. I just dont understand how a mistake could be repeated over and over again with no effort to change how you approach it to make things right. My theory is she does this on purpose so I wont ever ask her to cook again lol.
Larry I have one with my wife that literally bugs the shit out of me.
Whenever we expect company my wife scurries to clean up. While I appreciate her attention to cleanliness, she always starts at the back of the house moving to the front where the guests will be.
Then in many cases the job is not done and she will be cleaning up when the guests arrive.
If she had started in the front, where people will be....well you guys get it.
Why clean a back bedroom no one will see before the living room and kitchen that everyone will see? Crazy. I do mention it, but I think complaining is about the worst thing I could do.
She has her quirks, but she is the love of my life.