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Old 12-20-2006, 01:11 PM   #1
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Peace be with you?

OK, this is going to be a weird thread. Just going to warn you of that right up front.

Lately, folks are crabbier than usual. Little things are getting our panties in a bunch and people are flying off the handle about weird things. I'm including myself in this category. I hope all of you who read this take a look at yourself and your recent behaviours. And please don't feel this is specifically targeted at any ONE person. Its really really not. Its an observation about a lot of things.

Typically, this is a busy and stressful time of year for people. So what do we do? We come to the internet to surf and relax. But when we get here we find little things (or sometimes big things) that bug us and we react. Hmmm, perhaps NOT the best idea. The reaction often starts a vicious cycle of things.

Can we all just take a collective deep breath and agree to relax a bit? Don't sweat the small stuff. We have a phrase we use at work, MBA. That means Minor But Annoying. There are plenty of those posts flying around here from time to time. Posts that are seemingly random, or posts that are blatantly immature and foolish, but are really in the grand scheme of things, harmless. Can we just let that go a bit? If you really can't let them go, then can you deal with them appropriately? Gently telling someone in a PM might work. Might not, but hey, its a good first step and a whole lot nicer than a rant.

We are a community of vastly different ages, cultural backgrounds, languages and other things. Don't expect everyone to think as you do, and be TOLERANT of differences. Folks are not saying "you are wrong" most of the time. More likely they are saying "this works for me". It just might not come across that way. If you feel like someone is being disrespectful to you there is a very polite and gentle way to find out. Use "I" messages. Try saying, "I read your post this way, is that what you meant?" or, "I felt _______ when I read your post. Did you mean ______ or did I read it wrong?"

I hope no one takes offence to this. Its just a little observation and suggestion. I hope that if you've read this you will continue on and take a deep breath or two as the days go by.

And so, from me to all of you, Peace be with you.

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Old 12-20-2006, 01:18 PM   #2
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And just to add to what Alix said, if you really get to a point where someone is consistently bothering you then we do have a feature that a lot of people may not know exists.

The feature is the ignore feature. If you put someone on your ignore list then you will no longer see posts from that person.

To use this feature just click on the members name from within a thread who you would like to ignore. Then click on View Public Profile. Then in the blue bar just under their name and over their signature you will see Add member to Your Ignore List. Just click that then click submit and you will no longer see posts from that user.
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Old 12-20-2006, 01:27 PM   #3
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I agree totally with Allix and I even find that the people who sell the Holiday gifts are a little crabby.

I just say that it will be over soon and peace be with me.
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Old 12-20-2006, 05:21 PM   #4
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And also with you, Alix. And everybody else.

I've been experiencing - and contributing, have to confess - to a lot of sniping at work, and it's getting me down. So today driving in to the office I decided to drop it for at least through the Christmas season. Feel much better already.

Probably will help that tomorrow is my last day of work until Jan. 3.
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Old 12-20-2006, 05:25 PM   #5
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Well said, Alix. "I " think "I" know where you're coming from. But, heck, if I was any more chilled, I'd be comatose!!!!
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Old 12-20-2006, 05:46 PM   #6
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In the real world, you take the bitter with sweet. That's what makes the world go round. If it was all sweetness and light here, and everyone agreed with everyone else, it would be a very boring place to visit. We have a rainbow of personalities here and we are all unique. There is no excuse for rudeness or hurtful posts, but I feel we can express our points of view, when asked, in a respectful manner. My name is Wasabi and I approve this message.
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Old 12-21-2006, 12:01 AM   #7
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Well said Alix! Thank you.
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Old 12-21-2006, 05:59 AM   #8
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In the real world, you take the bitter with sweet. That's what makes the world go round. If it was all sweetness and light here, and everyone agreed with everyone else, it would be a very boring place to visit. We have a rainbow of personalities here and we are all unique. There is no excuse for rudeness or hurtful posts, but I feel we can express our points of view, when asked, in a respectful manner. My name is Wasabi and I approve this message.
Yes, well said Alix. Kofi Annan is leaving and if his replacement hadn't already been found, I'd have voted for you .

... but also well said Wasabi! GB had said once it was like a brother-sister relationship here, meaning, that there would be little episodes of snippiness, but they didn't really mean anything and were soon put behind us. I like the liveliness of a bit of disagreement for one thing, and I respect the honesty behind it. But also, I think it serves a purpose -- isn't one of the main functions of this site for us all to learn from each other? How in heaven's name will we ever do that if we all feel bound by political correctness and politeness to never even say "boo!" to one another?
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Old 12-21-2006, 08:54 AM   #9
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I think it's time for a group hug!!

I have been pretty quiet & low key lately because of the simple fact that I just don't know when this rumbling volcano inside of me is going to erupt. I just have to make myself take a step back & breathe.But, that's not the point right now, I agree with everything that's been said in this thread so far. I wish you all peace, calmness, & joy!!
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Yes, well said Alix. Kofi Annan is leaving and if his replacement hadn't already been found, I'd have voted for you .
Good call, Ayrton! She gets my vote, too
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