Patches is gone, too.
First I lost my father. 6 months later, Pippin died of cardiac arrest on a vet's table in S. Fla and 6 months after that, I had to put Patches down. She was on subcutaneous fluids for years and her kidneys were shutting down. I tried to make her last days happy ones. I still miss them both. They were so good to my father--avoided the oxygen leads, kept him company.
It took me three years to be willing to be adopted by Sadie and Celia and I found them at Rescue Village.