Dave Hutchins
Head Chef
Barb L you are too much. Hand them the remote indeed. My dad went to bed at 9 pm ever night of his life he did not care who was there he went to bed. Then every body took the hint.
It might sound corny, but honesty is the best policy. It might not be the easiest policy, but it is the only way to get your needs addressed correctly. Tell your guest that you would love to have him over, but you need to call it a night by x o'clock. Direct honesty is the best way to go.
Jeekinz, oh, I have no problem with honestly stating my true feelings, in fact my wife would be happy if I just shut up once in a while.
And since retirement I have no impulse control whatsoever. I mean, here I am a tinker in the land of chefs. How many weeks I have gone here without a ban? Astounding!
The crux here is that this is a really good friend. And to a biker, I would consider him a bro in all of the traditional descriptions. And let's be honest, I probably drive him nuts.
I know that I can never have my own way 24/7, but sometimes this feeling wells up, and I cannot shake it.
The sad thing is that I am going to have to deal with this--if I want to keep our friendship and care for my wife under the new circumstances. It's a tightrope to walk. Perhaps that's the thing I hate.
If you read between the lines, he's too nice for his own good! lolThere are a whole bunch of words here, but none of them address why you could not just be honest with him and tell him you need him out of your house by a certain time.
GB, if you grew up in that environment, you learn the ropes of that group.
For example, there is a world of difference between a friend and a bro. You might not like the bro or what he does. But he is part of what you consider an extended family. You have taken on that responsibility.
You must have a no-brother-good-inlaw that drives you nuts and drinks up all of your good single malt. But your wife loves him, deep inside he's an alright guy, so you cut him slack as you would for no one else.
Then again, you have a friend who is a confidant, the kind of guy who is always welcome for the big-screen and a Packer game.
This guy drives me nuts. I don't know how to resolve it. Frankly, deep inside, I'm hot sure I can or want to.
but have not said why you can not just be honest.
QSis said:What you going to do with it? Frame and hang it?
So in the biker culture honesty is forbidden?I guess there are social mores in every aspect of culture, even mine.
So in the biker culture honesty is forbidden?
Jeekinz said:For some reason, I feel dumberer now.
It doesn't matter who it is, that is 'needing attention', it's just that people sometimes do need to be with other people. To me it seems that Chico was just was being kind, and kindness is better than brutal honesty, or being selfish. That's just my opinion.So in the biker culture honesty is forbidden?
Chico started this thread by saying how his wife is sick and she pays for it when people over stay their welcome, he is unhappy with the situation, and referred to it as an impossible situation.It doesn't matter who it is, that is 'needing attention', it's just that people sometimes do need to be with other people. To me it seems that Chico was just was being kind, and kindness is better than brutal honesty, or being selfish. That's just my opinion.