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Old 03-20-2006, 11:56 PM   #1
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Entertainment Anxiety

My next door neighbor is getting ready to throw a brunch. Whenever she entertains (a few times a year) she gets very anxious. We're talking fewer than a dozen people, a brunch (which is so easy). My husband is presiding over a bloody mary bar. I'm bringing the ham. I guess what I'm getting at is why is this so stressful for her? Don't get me wrong, when I'm expecting 40 or 50 people over for my two annual parties, I tend to stress out myself .... not because of the people coming, but because I hate to clean house. Hubby says that from now on he's hiring a friend of ours to do the basic house-cleaning. But this woman really goes ballistic. What can I say to her to calm her down? She always asks me, "Claire, what do you do so you can throw a party for 40 and not be anxiety ridden like I am?" I really don't know the answer. Is it just personality? I'm not saying I don't have my anxious, 3 a.m. moments when I think of everything I should have done. But it is always worth it. If I got as upset as she does, I doubt I'd ever even have someone over for dinner (something I do at least monthly), much less throw a party. Any words of wisdom I can throw her way would be appreciated.

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Old 03-21-2006, 12:29 AM   #2
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My sister is the same way. She worries herself half to death and always turns out the best foods and desserts. Her holiday celebrations are legendary.

Sis is an internationally recognized worrying champion. If she has nothing to worry about, she worries that things are going to well to last.

Of course we all worry about a big event. We just handle it differently, Your friend talks to you about it. You worry and wake up in the middle of the night. I make lists and check them constantly.
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Old 04-10-2006, 06:30 AM   #3
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The brunch, by the way, was great.
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Old 04-10-2006, 08:16 AM   #4
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What can I say to her to calm her down?
Give her directions to hubbys bloody mary bar
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Old 04-10-2006, 08:35 AM   #5
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Give her directions to hubbys bloody mary bar
What a great idea!!!
Yesterday I was walking around feeling like I was missing something all day and I was we usually host an open house Palm Sunday brunch and we didn't this year .
We usually have marinated turkey, spiral ham, scalloped potatoes, veggie pies, french toast, belgian waffles, fresh fruit, danishes, bagels and assorted cream cheeses, mimosas, bloody marys, mudslides and a few different things every year.The best part is all our friends come and we get to spend pretty much all day with them.
I guess I can look forward to Dennis' college graduation party June 3rd but, it would have been nice to have both!!
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Old 04-11-2006, 04:37 AM   #6
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Unfortunately she also suffers from anorexia nervosa and you rarely see food, much less alcohol, pass her lips. Virgin Marys do very little to relax you! I met the woman's mother and realize why she's such a bundle of nerves.

Yes, my husband is internationally renowned as the king of Bloody Marys. To me, brunch isn't brunch without them and a few bottles of brut champagne.
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Old 04-11-2006, 05:22 PM   #7
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To me, brunch isn't brunch without them and a few bottles of brut champagne.
Claire, you are an extremely civilized woman. I salute your taste!
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Claire, you are an extremely civilized woman. I salute your taste!
Don't forget the Mimosas! And the Bailey's to go in the coffee!
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Some of my friends and I have what we call (very un-originally) The Bunch For Brunch. The basic group is two fifty-something couples and a forty-something widow. We take turns, aiming at trying to get together on a monthly basis (we do skip months when there are a lot of holidays or illnesses). Everyone ALWAYS brings at least one bottle of champagne. There is always OJ for mimosas. Usually bloody marys. Sometimes someone finds another exotic beverage recipe and we try it out. Anyone who has family or freinds visiting is welcome, we just go from sit-down dinner to buffet line mode. It is always a bit of potluck. The host fixes the main dishes, but we all bring salads, sweets, whatever is appropriate. The particular woman I'm talking about is not a part of this group .... I think, much as we like her, her anxiety level would drive us crazy. This group is very much a group who love to entertain and don't really feel anxious about it at all. I don't get anxious myself until the guest list hits 20 or so. Even then it's just a few minutes at 3 a.m. a night or two before the party.
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Claire, that sounds so much fun - Bunch for Brunch! Right up my alley! I feel sorry for your friend who gets so anxious. I wish I knew what you could tell her, but I don't. My mom is the same way. It has now come down to her not entertaining at all - even just my family and my sister's family. She clearly does not enjoy herself. She doesn't drink either - she should!
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