Thanks Stacy. That's exactly how I look at it. I believe that if she had been with the birth mom she might not have lived as long as she has (the B.M. has been in several relationships, at least one abusive, since the baby was born), but she was given four months of love from a mom, dad, two brothers, and grandparents (not to mention a church full of people who all wanted their turn to hold her!). I grew to love the birth mom, but she would not (and she understood that) have been able to raise her.