Biloben and Paint, you are not alone in not loving grits.
I grew up in the North, and no one, absolutely no one, made grits.
You did not find them in restaurants, and you could not find them in the groceries. (They even make instant grits, although most people tell me they are inferior to the McCoy. Don't ask me, I cannot tell the difference between not very good regular grits and poor instant grits.)
Having happily lived in the South for a number of years, and enjoyed almost all of its dishes, I still just do not get grits.
But then again I don't get Marmite or Vegemite either.
I guess it is something you have to grow up with.
But hushpuppies, that is another matter altogether.